When is being a single mom the worst?

Question

my son is almost two weeks, and for the most part ive been doing it alone....its not as bad as i thought it was gonna be. his father was coming around, but all he would do is come over to my house drunk and try and get with me (while i still have stiches in!). even when his father was here i still handled everything all night and stuff because he wouldnt wake up. his daddy loves him, but doesnt take care of him.....but now his father and i got into a huge fight and probably wont be seeing much of eachother.

what can i expect in being a single mother? when is it the worst?

Answer 1

Dear You,

First of all, i am also a single mother. I have 6 year old son. He is very  cute, very smart and loves me very much. Please do take care of your son and never lose hope in starting over your life if you cant get together with your present husband.

Some men they are irresponsible. Lets face the fact. So the h**l and heaven do justifiy this form of deed and evil.

You better consult your family before you both decided to separate. If the issue is not so big or it can be overcome anyhow /forgiven, i advice you get back to your husband and being both parents are easier than raising your son alone.

But if nothing can be helped anymore and you are certain that your husband now is not going to change to better/be responsible, then it is ok to leave him alone and start concentrate on your life.

Dont think that if he s no longer there it means your life is over. Only the one who deserves you the most could be with you and appreciate you, and understands you as you are and be good with you through thicks and thins.

I am happy now raising my son and i have my family members to support in looking after him when i am away. I m actively involved in business and want to leave enough fortune for him so he knows that his mother loves him so much and still can be a father to him. And i m still looking for my better half, and the one must love me and my son both. I am not losing hope, but lets say there's no one out there for me at the end, i m not worried. I have my happiness in front of me already. After all, life is temporary. our destiny is in heaven. so lets be good and always remain good.  

Answer 2

I wouldn't say any of it is the worst.... you might get lonely being a single parent, and if you do, then look into some support groups. They can be really helpful. To me, it's more rewarding... when you see the little things that they do, the first smile, the first clap, the first... well, everything. Just remember, you will be there for your child. And as your son grows up, he will appreciate you being there for him, when his father wasn't. When his father finally wakes up and sees all that he has missed, he will be sorry. I mean, you said it yourself, even when he was there he did nothing! So it sounds like it's one less headache for you to deal with. Just be strong, I know I kept my daughters father around because I didn't want to do it alone, but now I realize it's actually much more easier to deal with when we ended things for good. Just keep your held high, because single moms don't get the appreciation they deserve  

Answer 3

I am sorry your in this situation. You will learn fast it's not you anymore all of your needs EVERY ONE OF YOUR NEEDS will be last. I remember NOT being single but, my hubby had a demanding job. I had a newborn and a toddler the baby was crying the toddler throwing up i had to pee so bad. I had to carry the toddler into the bathroom pee while holiding a sick kid the other crying to be fed that was the worst. The worst is when the mom can't put her kid 1st. It is HARD a 2 week old baby is not like a 2 12 or 16 year old your just getting started it's all good at 2 weeks. I have 3 children my BEST advice don't have children close together one is WAY WAY easier then 3. My older kids are 12 and 10 now i remember the hardships of two kids in diapers. I waited YEARS to have the 3rd he is 21 months old now. This baby's Dad is all bad news you need to focas on being a mother knock out all boys/men for a while.

Answer 4

Honestly, when the children are as small as your baby is, if you get sick - that's when it will really suck.  And then when the baby is old enough to say "where's daddy?", well, that's the REALLY tough part.

You never know.  The father could make a turn around for the baby and you.  You guys just had a fight.  He may want to patch things up once you've both had time to cool off.

Until then, just enjoy your baby.  They are only babies once.  This is your time to really start bonding with your child, and it's the most incredible feeling.

Good luck hun.  And I hope it does work out for you and the father of your baby.

Answer 5

my mom was a single parent for me n my brother n she jus had another baby 17 yrs later wit a nother man n is still a single parent it hard i watched her go through it all it made me sad wen she cried i would try to be good so she wld be happy n now im 17 n made her a grandma so me bein a mother myself omly makes me relize evn mor wat she went thru but u gta do it for the love of ur life i myself kimda feel lik a single parent since my fiance wont change diapers cant stands wen he cries n cant feed him since im breast feeding but i love my fiance alot n dont blame him he helps me finiaclly alot since he has a good job n he loves us both very much but u most def need to leave ur man he seems to not care tht hes a father n needs to be responsible maybe u can do wat my mom did to my irresponsible father she got custody of us n made him pay child support but if we evr wnted to see him she wld let us she nvr took his right away frm him of bein our dad

Answer 6

It's super hard.... it gets harder as they sleep less during the day. Insight is it won't be easy it will be awsome some days awful others. It is a HARD HARD job. Best quote i heard was having a child is like having your heart outside of your body all the time. NOTHING will hurt you like when something happens to your child.  

Answer 7

Are you serious? "Daddy" was trying to get with you when your baby is 2 weeks old? Wow! That is some caring, sensitive man you have there.

At 2 weeks a child sleeps, eats, cries a bit and poops. Pretty easy to manage. Being a single parent is the hardest job and biggest responsibility you will ever have and no one can explain that to you. And, with a father like this child has.........HOLD ON!......looks like you are in for a bumpy ride!