When is enough, enough?

Question

I'm just confused as to what to do. I don't think it will ever work out when I really think about it.

Answer 1

I would guess that b/c you care enough to post this ?, you still care enough to work on the relationship. When that feeling goes away....Enough is enough.

Answer 2

Just see each of u r eyes and lips . u both will understand. Be happy

Answer 3

When you stop enjoying it... Trust me when you finally do you will know and let go on your own.

Answer 4

It's called enablement.  Someone is better than 'no one' and maybe both of you are scared to be lonely - easier to go back than forward to the unknown.  You have ONE life - go live it appropriately.  Find someone to bring you happiness and give back to those around you.  Real question is:  do you really WANT to let go?  I say it's all about the future - start moving forward and STOP looking back......enough already. You owe it to yourself to move on.

Answer 5

Only when one of you stop answering the others calls.

Answer 6

drama is not healthy...you two need to let go..one of you may be the stronger of the two..figure that part out and there you have it...enough!  

Answer 7

You will when you realize it's not to be. Some part of you can't let go just yet.

Once your really interested in another relationship, this stuff will slow down and possibly stop

Answer 8

Only when one of you actually make the decision to cut the cord that bind you both together.  

Answer 9

Why not learn how to commuicate well?

google relationship tips

Answer 10

Only you and your ex can decide when enough is enough. You find these reasons to contact each other more because of regret. Once that person is gone then you realize what you had, the good times- But if all you do is fight then you need to stop it asap. It's not healthy for either of you. I am recently separated ( last wednesday i moved out of my marital home) and since then my husband have spoken everyday at least three times a day. There is not fighting (now). People separate for a reason and until you can fix your selves there is no way you will be able to fix the relationship.

Answer 11

You are still stinging from pain inflicted upon each other. Unless you try to heal each other or self heal...you will go on for some time. If you are interested in saving the relationship...you will have to give a little and not make it all about you. One of you has to stop the circle from continuing...who will it be? Take Care

Answer 12

What do you argue about and is it really that important?

Edit:

My point is, that neither of you has to be right or wrong.  The majority of the things that we argue about are dumb and pointless any ways.  The more difficult the subject in conversations, then a more definite (realistic) decision overrides any argument between two people that WANT to be together and WORK together.

Answer 13

The only time it's too late to reconcile is when one or the other decides to move on. If you are having second thoughts - and your spouse is, too - maybe you should try counseling. Start slow, communicate about what you have always loved about one another, and what you would like to different to maintain a strong relationship in the future. You may end up being stronger together than you ever thought you could be. If you don't at least try you will always wonder . . .

Answer 14

No.  

You each enjoy the pain, the irritation, the fighting, the drama... and with two of you being drama queens, this type of relationship can go on and on and on until one or the other of you finds a quality person.... and that isn't likely, since you fill your time with this.  And a prospective other partner can see this easily with any radar at all, and avoid you like the plague.....

To break the pattern, hon, get some counseling... you aren't doing very well on your own, and there is no shame asking for help....