When is it acceptable to ask PERSONAL questions on a date...By the

Question

4th date or what??? or should i just come right out and tell him.."i am a very private person regarding money/s*x"> That should tell him.."i keep that kind of stuff personal, RIGHT???

Answer 1

Mmm. Maybe you could JUST get away with 3rd.

But I would stick with 5th just to get on the safe side

It all depends on the guy.

Some guys would say 3rd fine.

Others may say 4th

some would feel more comfortable with 5th.

so go with 5th.

Answer 2

You'll sound guarded, like you are hiding something. Not a fun date.  

Answer 3

The third date, just get to know them, start off with regular questions and slowly turn them into personal questions.

Answer 4

It depends on the individuals.

When I date guys... I don't know man..

I personally open up and I guess I make the environment comfortable enough for most of the guys to open up to.

It's good to be natural.

If they're not (or I'm not) comfortable enough to open up with personal issues (regardless of what date we're on), then usually the other one gets the point and backs off.

Just have fun and let it flow..

Answer 5

It's not very clear to me what all you're including in your money/s*x category.  Perhaps you're responding to something he's asked?  I guess without knowing the context and what you're thinking it would make me more suspicious or beg further questions.

Another way to set limits might be to say "I don't feel comfortable talking about that (or doing that)."  You might or might not choose to add "yet."

Answer 6

I def think the first date should be all about the chemistry and small talk, and not about money or s*x.  By the 3rd or 4th date, you both should have an idea about the other persons beliefs and lifestyle.  Yeah, nothing too personal on the first date :)

Answer 7

I agree..4th or 5th sounds good!