When is it good to have baby #2?????

Question

i dont know how to tell my hubby or convince him...but i want another one...my boy is going to be one this month and he gets along with his younger cousin (4 months) great!!gives kisses etc!..so when would be good to get pregnat with #2? im really anxious....please help me i dont know what to do or how to tell him!

Answer 1

I'm personally going to wait until my daughter is at least 3 or 4 to have #2. I think a year old is too young, especially when your oldest hits his terrible 2's stage. As for your husband, I would suggest leaving him clues around the house and dropping hints every now and then. He'll get the hint after a while.. then tell him why you want a baby right now and that you two will have no problem taking care of the two little miracles you brought into this world.

Answer 2

My sister and I have 10 months between us. My parents married when my sister was 3 months old and I was there honeymoon baby (I was premature). We have always been close. To be honest, I don't think age gaps have anything to do with how well people get along. It's the people. Whenever you are ready to have another baby is when you should have another baby.

Just tell your husband you want another one. Say having one child is so amazing that you want another. You can start trying to conceive when ever you are ready. When your husband agrees, start then.

Answer 3

All of our children are 2 yrs apart. Largest gap was between our daughter and son. Daughter born in June and Son born in October 2 yrs later.

I think it's the perfect gap because they are close enough to be friends and not too close to be competition with one another (parents' attention, school, sports, friends, etc...). My sisters and I were 2 yrs apart and we get along great - had fun growing up too.  

Answer 4

Well, I've only got one at the moment, but I would like my kids to be about 2-2 1/2 years apart...

Reason being my sister and I are 5 years apart, and growing up we didn't always get along. Ha ha! We fought like crazy. And then my little brother is 4 years younger then her, and she fought with him like crazy. Now that my sister and I are older we're best friends, and with the 9 years between my brother and I, well he's like my baby. LOL. He always has been. I was already in high school when he started kindergarten, and now that he's starting high school....I wonder what happened to my baby brother.

Ideally is going to be 2 years for me, so they'll be close enough to play together and not be a nuisancece to eachother

Answer 5

Mine are 5, 4, 2, and 5 months.  It's a lot of work, but to see them all play together is priceless!  The 5 and 4 year olds are 19 months apart, as are the 2 and 5 month olds.

Answer 6

it would be good for you to go head and have antoher so they can grow up close, but keep in mind that his cousin is not his sis/bro and he knows that he/she will go home soon and he will be the star of the attention. so you might get some jealousy considering there so close in age but as they get older they'll be best friends!

Answer 7

Well i actually had my second when my oldest was about to turn 2.  So they are two years apart.  I haven't really had an trouble with it.  It did take him a little time to get use to the little one.  But now that they are 1 and 3.. they play together so much.  He still does his older brother tactics like bossing and being in control.  The only down thing i could say.. is having them both in diapers still.. because that is costly.  I didn't have that problem.. but i can only imagine.  I know some say wait till the oldest is about to go to school so you don't have to be stressed all day.  Good luck

Answer 8

My son is 13 months old and I'm in no rush.  I've got some things I'd like to do before I have another baby, and I really want some time to enjoy just being the three of us.  My son is just now getting easier, he was a really really tough baby, and I don't want to go down that road again quite yet!  My plan is to start trying again when he's 2 (or even a little older maybe).  That way when the baby comes, he'll be able to go to preschool a few days a week, and might even be potty trained!  

Do whatever works best for you and your family!  Everyone is different, and every family is different

Answer 9

The best time would be when you and your husband BOTH want to have another one.  And don't judge your son's reactions to a cousin as what will happen when he gas a sibling.  Small children often see a new sibling as a threat to their status in the home, he could also see the new baby as a "replacement".  

Answer 10

2-4 years

Answer 11

Its up to you and whatever you think you can handle. I have friends with 2 children in diapers and they feel like changing diapers is all they do all day long.

I am hoping to get pregnant with #2 before Christmas, my 1st is almost 19 month now, so that would put about 2 1/2 years between my 1st and second. I'm hoping by that point my daughter will be potty trained!

Answer 12

I think 21 months-3 years is a great age gap. My son is 21 months and my daughter is 4 weeks old. I got pregnant when my son was  One year old (2 weeks after his birthday). My siblings and I are 11-17 years apart. (I do have one older sibling that is only a year older than me) and as much as I love my siblings, the age gap is insane. I sometimes feel like their mom instead of their sister.

Tell your husband that you want the kids to have not too far an age gap and you want and are ready for another baby. It's great when they grow up together. My sister and I are 13 months apart and I always had someone to play with no matter what.

As for trying start anytime between now and the next month or 2. It takes time, remember you're not baking cookies. LOL!

Good luck!!

Answer 13

My son is 4 1/2 months and I'm already wanting another baby.  My husband and I are going to wait until our son is 1 1/2 - 2 years old to try again.  We don't want to rush into having another one and then say, oh c**p we can't handle this!  Lol.

Answer 14

I'm in the same boat, my daughter is 2 and I'm dying for the second one but my husband thinks differently. I'm trying to convince him any way I can and I think its starting to work now as after me going on about it ages and presenting all sides of a second child hes finally considering it. Kids get along much better when they are closer in age too.GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 15

2 years apart is ideal.

My oldest is 25 and middle is 13 (too big age gap ha ha)

Youngest is 11.  The 2nd and third are now in Jr Hight together and are great together (most of the time).