When is it right to say "goodbye"?

Question

When I was younger…I thought my ideas were the best for the world…..When I grew older, I learned to listen to the other side of the story…….and I learned a lot from doing so….I had been puzzled by my dad always following what my mom said….one day, I asked him; “dad why do you do ‘everything’ that mom wants?”….He said; “because she’s right”….I said that means I always had to check the rightness of what you tell me coz she could be differing with your advice and I would have to take hers over your.” To which he replied; “no necessarily, but she’s right.”…..I kept on probing until one day when he said; ”my son, you’ll grow to understand why I’m doing what I’m doing. You’ll understand that it’s more important to listen to your mom than to do what I wanted to do. She’s sometimes wrong, but I weigh the likely outcome and decide to agree with her notwithstanding.” I’m blessed that I my parents never went to bed angry at each other. I remember during the 1985 state of emergency, my dad allowed the comrades to use the church….the police came and shot teargas….our missionary house was engulfed with teargas……my little cousin was badly affected….my mom was livid…..she told my dad that “we are here to spread the word of God, not to be involved in bosiyayinyova (political activists)…..my dad was just quiet. Years later, my dad said he decided to keep quiet coz he was not going to win that battle…….

Today, I’ve come to that stage on my own life……I’ve been persuaded to leave Yahoo. Unathi appreciates my fighting spirit…..but says I was leave. In the past few days, she had been saying that I must quit….advancing all sorts of arguments. I even tried to tell her that I’m at the edge of getting my prize from Bull. I also said I had just spoken to my Yang, the CEO of Yahoo, about my suspended account. She says she’s proud of me but I should quit. I asked my dad last night and he says I should do what would be best for me, and I must be careful not to believe that acceding to Unathi’s request/demand would make me a weakling….he is not a weakling…he’s living with a loving wife and respecting wife, my mom……

So, to all SA Regulars thanks guys for making my stay over the last twenty months such an experience……from DV, Tsepo, Inno, Cakes, Blue Bull, Alfie, Jowijo, Busi, TI, MJ, Ayiza, Kopano, HD, Bull, Bad Brad, Ferrari. Zxcv, turniton, s****., checi, jeez, Lise, Road runner, Skyli, Nay, Jowijo, Styvies, Chicky, Porgie, Mshoza, Pitso, SAgirl, Wonder, Marrs, Ayanda …….I learned so much from you guys……you might not be aware but I respected each one of you….I differed with some but my mom taught me NEVER to be disrespectful to any person….in the eyes of your children and families each one of you are heroes and heroines, kings and queens…and there was no intention to demean any of you. If I did, I’m very sorry. I also pay tributes to those who for whatever reason decided to quit…people like Poepies, Unathi, Vango and others thanks for sharing your knowledge with nonentities like me……

I’m going to the other forum…where questions are never deleted and we post threads, meaning that the question can stay forever and you can still answer to a question posted in 2004 when the side started……in that way the lessons are not lost and you can make proper reference in your work or life situation…….

Peace!

Answer 1

That sounds worthwhile visiting  -  keep well Zim and if you can/want to,  add me as a contact, but i will still answer in SA

Answer 2

You'll be missed. at least I'm blessed that i know where you getting to, so I'll follow you when i need mind challenging questions. I'm impressed that Unathi has such a positive influence on you.

Answer 3

Arrgh Moloi!?

Eish, what's happening to this section when another stalwart decides to leave!

Not to worry, that's a great lady you've got there and I can understand your reasons.

I'm very sad to see you leave though, even though we may differ greatly on a variety of political points I think this section has taught us both great lessons in life, one of them is to debate intellectually and fairly and leave the prejudgements and preconceptions about others behind especially when discussing and socialising on other matters; just because people differ in one aspect of life it does not mean they have to differ in all others.

I think your outlook has been very fair, and you have always been of the opinion that we are all equal and all just as deserving. I share that same belief which I think is a very good starting point in life.

Cheers and happy future friend (if I may call you that?).

p.s. Will you still be contactable on this Yahoo e-mail address?

p.p.s. Will you give us a sign or something when you become president one day so that we know it's you?

Answer 4

Zim you must realize that its not only about you learning from us, its also about us learning from you. And yes I have learnt so much from you in the last couple of months. You one of those people that I always look out for and are so glad when I see you've answered my q or I see you have a q. Lets continue to impart wisdom to one another. Don't say bye to the regulars, but give us an alternative way we can still gain knowledge from one another. . .

I've made some good friends, confidants and opinions here, I'd hate to lose one of them over bollie!

Answer 5

Which forum is this? Pray tell!!! I might just follow.... I'm not bothered by violations as such, I'm rather bothered by what comes out the minds and fingertips of others.

Tsela tshweu abuti....

Answer 6

All the best for your future. I will miss your thought provoking questions.

Answer 7

first to xanthoul; from what i read zim has been told to quit by his soon to be wife. i've been here for long to know ehat has been going on. that can't be said of you unless you are a multi-avatar. zim is the only person here to have had his suspended acount re-instated, and i was looking forward to it being done again.

to you zim, i'm gonna miss your highly intelligent questions. i feel blessed to have rubbed (virtually so) shoulders with. you.

Answer 8

Cheers Zim

Answer 9

Hey man, your dad has the right approach!  Your mom is (usually) right!!  And please never forget this with Unathi.  She is a great woman. Look after her, and she will look after you.  I will miss you here.  You were here when I started, and you are sort of "part of the furniture".

Now we have to redesign our "lounge", someone else must take the throne!  

Go well, my friend, and peace to you!

Let us know to which forum you are moving, please? Reserve some seats for us!!

Answer 10

Bye Zim$ hope you have a good life.

Answer 11

Enjoy. You will be missed.

Answer 12

To arms to arms whatever ~~

Answer 13

Peace to you bra..

May the force be with you..

Answer 14

It is sad to see you go but hope that the future will be exciting and wonderful

Answer 15

Is your married name now going to be Mr Unathi?

Any way bye bye.

Answer 16

Cheers.

Answer 17

Well, thanks to Unathi for saving me R1400.

Here's a reminder of what you will be losing out on should you depart for good:

http://www.neverhadadrink.com/wp-content...

Anyway, good luck and cheers.

Answer 18

I've not been here like I used to but couldn't resist responding to this when I heard you quit -

you are not only a friend but a hero. I'm most of the time amzed by your resilliance. Your attitude to respect even the most of your enemies has taught me a lot. Now that you have left this forum, how I wish I could sing "Simple days" for you.

Answer 19

This forum won't be the same without you. Ciao.

Please do come back, just to invite us to the wedding.All the best.

Answer 20

Thanks ole Zim . You are one of the few I do respect . Always remember where you come from , never forget the people on the bottom and respect your father's wise ways .

Re tla bonana gape ,mogwera a ka !

Answer 21

I think Zim, that you do not like loosing, You support the very people that back stab you, and lastly, you should have stayed on and showed that you too can take to starting from scratch, rather than running off to some other sites.

Answer 22

Go well bhuti wam; I've learned a lot from you. Tell us where you are going so that some of us can follow you.

Answer 23

Lol Honey go in Peace,but you'll be missed sorely.x*x

Answer 24

Sounds like me when I gave up facebook, you'll survive :)

cheers