When is it to soon to have a

Question

baby shower i will be 25 weeks on tues. i am having a c section done on the 19th of nov i just dont want to wait till the last week to have it because thats what happen with my first baby i had no time to get anything ready also is it okay to have a baby shower i have 2 kids already and only had one shower and my mom seems to think that you can only have one in your lifetime please help thanks !!

Answer 1

Most people I have talked to have only had one baby shower.  We threw a tea and cookies get together for a coworker of mine to celebrate her third baby, but in lieu of gifts we chipped in for a store gift certificate.

Answer 2

I think that if you already have children, you most likely have everything that you are going to need to get started right? a crib and the basics? If not, then have a shower here in the next 6 weeks or so.  If you do already have all of that stuff, then wait until after the baby is born. This way, it can be an opportunity for people to get more personalized gifts.

Answer 3

If your two babies are 7 years or older, it is ok to have a baby shower. This assumes that they are so old, all your baby stuff is gone OR outdated so you need new ones. Also, if you are having a different s*x baby, you can have a shower. I think you should wait at least a month before the birth. So anytime in October is a good time.

Answer 4

well, I usually don't attend babyshowers for people who already have kids, unless their children are far apart in age (mom who gets pregnant and she has teenages) because you should have a lot of stuff already. Baby Showers are supposed to take the edge of paying for a baby. I will support a diaper shower where you only get diapers as a gift.

Answer 5

I think its kind of inaproperiate to have more than one baby shower.  You already have what you need, its like you're asking for gifts.  Kind of tacky.  

Good luck!

Answer 6

A friend of mine had a diaper party for her 2nd...some of us couldn't help ourselves and brought other gifts but mainly people brought diapers, wipes, and things like butt paste to stock the new mommy up...we all had a great time...she did the normal baby games and had food and drinks etc.....another one of our friends threw the party for her. You might try something like that.

Answer 7

i had my baby showers the first was a girl & it was when i was 7 months, that was nice bc enough time to get things i didn't need & i wasn't to preggo & tired to get it. My second was a boy & I had it at 8 months. I think if you have had a girl & are having another girl then no not another shower,but if you've never had a boy then yes its needed. I wouldn't have a shower personally under 6 1/2 months but really if your all in the clear do it when you feel is best. your the mom anyways  

Answer 8

Your mom is right.  Most people believe you shouldn't have another baby shower since you already have kids.  It doesn't matter if the s*x of the baby is different.  Sometimes people like to give a shower if there are quite a few years in between the last child and the baby.  I would say in September or October are good times for a shower if you are going to do it.

Good luck with your baby!

Answer 9

Having only one shower is usually what people expect.  People expect that after your baby is grown out of things you would keep them for the next child.  Of course surprises do happen but people sometimes dont understand that.  I would think that if your children are still young then all the big things such as a crib, swing, hihg chair, etc shouldnt be expected at a second shower.  My youngest child was 10 and my husband had been "fixed" or so we thought.  I became pregnant and was very shocked to show up at a cousins baby shower that turned out to be for me.  

I wouldnt worry about it.  If someone is kind enough to give you a baby shower then go for it.  If people feel it isnt right then they dont have to come.

Answer 10

I think any time after you start showing is a good time for a baby shower.  Everyone wants to see that big baby bump!

There's NOTHING wrong with having more than one baby shower.  If your friend wants to give you one, then enjoy.  Plus you need boy stuff!

Answer 11

WOW I've never heard of only having one shower. I don't know maybe my family is just different. We are Hispanic so maybe we just like to party over and over again :-) Anyways we have a baby shower for every baby, because the baby shower is all about that baby. It doesn't mean we give cribs, car-seats, swings and high chairs at every shower, we usually give diapers, clothes, whipes,bibs and other fun baby stuff for the second, third or fourth kid. I don't see how having another shower hurts, it's not like the price of diapers is going down. Maybe I'm just tacky, lol... gooluck and i hope you get to have another shower to help you out

oh and definitely agree, we don't want your boy all pinked out :-)

Answer 12

it's up to the person hosting it whether or not you want to do it.  At my church there was a woman who was pregnant with her 8th child last year and someone threw her one.  As for having it now, i don't think it will be a problem.  

Answer 13

it used to be that you could only have one baby shower but these days its more accepted to have 2... especially in your case as you have 2 girls and are now having a boy.  the best thing to do so that you don't look lik eyou are present hungry is to have someone else organise it for you.  if i was you i would definitly have it before you are 30 weeks.

Answer 14

It sounds like you are planning to throw this shower for yourself.  I'm sure different locations have different customs, but where I'm from, throwing your own shower, especially when you have two other children, would be considered inappropriate.

I had my third child (a boy) when my daughters were 5 and 6.  We had a celebration luncheon about a month after he was born for close friends and family.  We didn't make it a gift giving affair, but my son received many lovely gifts just the same.

Good luck with the baby!

Answer 15

some people say its selfish to have showers with each pregnancy..

its entirely up to you...

if you have one it helps you out a lot with stuff that you can use...

i personally think you should only have one because its the first child and it will help you out lots with everything you need as to where the other pregnancies you already know what you need to get  

Answer 16

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Answer 17

A month or so before should be a good time, and no I don't think you should only have one in a lifetime. Each baby is special and deserves their own party, besides if anyone doesn't want to give a gift or attend they can choose not to.

Congrats and good luck!