When is the best time for a mother to work?

Question

my daughter is 9 months old and I had to quit my job to be with her, she cries when I'm not there and refuses strangers..it was a hard decision to be made but as a mom I couldn't stand watching my kid cry and feeling unhappy when i'm not with her and Igot worried about her health..I don't know how old my daughter has to be when i can think about having a job again?

Answer 1

Well i think that once u can get ur child to in a daycare and she can stay for about 3 days, then she is able to stay during work hours so that u can go to work.

Answer 2

That's something only you can answer for yourself.  Whether and when you go back to work is really a matter of your family finances and personal desires.  A lot of women want that fulfillment that a career can bring.  And many just plain need to work.

Personally, I think that if it's possible, a mom should be home when her kids are.  There tends to be a lot of emphasis on being with our kids when they're babies - up until they start school.  But my biggest concern is when my kids are young teens.  You know, too old for a babysitter but not really responsible enough to stay out of trouble.  I don't plan on working again until my children are grown.  There are plenty of opportunities to help out at the kids' schools and in the community.  I also do some community theater and take classes once in a while to keep myself busy and get to interact with other adults besides my husband.  But my youngest is not in school yet so I'm open to the possibility that things will change over the next 15 yrs and I may need to work.  If that happens, I will do my best to arrange my schedule in such a way that I can at least be home by the time my kids get in from school.  

Again, it's a very personal decision that every mother has to make for herself and her own family.  

Answer 3

You are a mom - that is your job. When your kid is in full-time school you can start to worry about yourself - but only a little.

Please don't put your 9 month old in daycare - they deserve to be home with mom or dad.

Answer 4

when ever you think is the write time

Answer 5

You will know in yourself when the time is right for you, it's different for everyone.

Answer 6

I'd say wait until YOU feel ready to have a job again.  A lot of the crying is separation anxiety due to her not understanding that you will return. In the meantime, keep socializing her so that she gets more use to being around strangers.  Then, when she's at the pre-school age, then that could be an excellent time for you to work as she can be in pre-school for at least 1/2 a day.  However, this decision is up to you.