When is the fourth trimester over?

Question

My baby is 3 months old. I have been using attachment parenting. Cosleeping, swaddling, feeding on demand, comfort nursing.

I have to start pumping and feeding it to him in a bottle, because I have to go back to work at least one day per week (which I know isnt much).

I also think that I should get him out of our bed soon, or else he will be in it for a very long time.

He has started having this high pitched- whiny cry when he doesnt like something. I mean, I cant hold him ALL DAY.. and even the baby wrap gets tiring. Is this the age where they can manipulate - or does he really need to be held when he whines?

When does the 4th trimester end? When should I start setting some boundaries? Dont get me wrong, I still want to be an attachment parent.. I just don't want to end up with a spoiled brat for a son.

Answer 1

no matter what you do babys will cry and manipulate. i think, however it is too early for a baby that age to take advantage of you. right now he is just crying becuase you taught him that when he cries, he gets attention. you do not have to hold him every time he cries. i did not do attatchment parenting becuase i did not want my son to want me to hold him all thie time. he is very independant. i think you should try another method if it is getting too rough for you. try Tracie Hogg "the baby whisperer".

Answer 2

I really don't know when the "4th trimester" ends, but I can tell you that you really should get him out of your bed, because my mom and dad kept me and both of my brothers in the bed with them and my brothers didn't stop sleeping in the same bed with them until about 7 and it took me about till 6th grade...I just didn't feel safe sleeping alone because I was always between my parents. So it would be a VERY good idea to put him in his own bed now.

Answer 3

Uh I dont think a three month old knows how to manipulate, You cant spoil a baby, when they cry its their little way of telling you somethings wrong or thet need something. Its not like they can lean over theyre bassinet and say hey mom I need a diaper change etc etc

Co sleeping is however not a good idea I had a friend whos baby died because she accidentally rolled on her. co sleeping with an infant is endagering theyre little lives. If the baby is high pitch screaming maybe he or she has colic. Its very painful for them. But you can not spoil a baby, they need the closeness and security like they had for 9 months in your womb. Good luck with you and your little one.

Answer 4

Our pediatrician doesn't recommend setting boundaries till at least 4 months.  

You can't spoil a baby.  There is something wrong to him if he is crying.  Studies have shown that babies that are quickly attended to are less whiny when they are older children and cry less often.