When is the right time to get re_married?

Question

Two years ago I left my alcholic husband, and now I'm engaged to my high school best friend of 11 years. He's amazing and I know he's the one I want to marry, but when is a good time? He has full custody of his daughter that I'm helping him raise, I treat her as if she were my own. We've all lived together for about 2 years now. My family thinks I should wait, wait for what? and how long?

Answer 1

ive seen people who didn't know each other for more than 2 weeks and got married.still are.its just a risk you take.it doesn't matter how long you have known each other .its more of wether or not you 2 can get along.

Answer 2

Good for you! It seems like you have done the right thing. Its really about how you feel, but try to keep in mind what the people who are closest to you are saying. They can see things that maybe you aren't seeing, because you are emotionally involved. If your family is a loving and supportive bunch..I would strongly consider waiting. Also, whats wrong with waiting?? You two are in love right, and hopefully you'll still be in love next year...and forever more.

Answer 3

Although every situation is different, 2 years is usually a good amount of time after separation or divorce before remarrying.  In your situation, you've known your fiance for such a long time-and that's terrific.  I wish you all the best!

Sometimes there can be a tendency to jump into the next relationship and marry quickly without having dealt with the difficult issues following a marriage breakup. I wonder if your family is responding to what appears to be a short amount of time between you leaving your husband and this relationship.  It's just a question.  Perhaps it would help to reassure them that because of the length of time you've known each other as close friends, you know each other very well!  

If you're very worried about how they feel, maybe you can ask them honestly what the problem is.  Most likely they just don't want to see you hurt and they're being protective, but maybe there's another issue and you'll be able to reassure them.

God bless you!

Answer 4

What are you waiting for?  Go get married.

Answer 5

when YOU and your lover says its right...your family is out of the decision making..and 2 yrs???????????????/ girl i have been divorced 10months and am ready to remarry even if just for companionship...lol..i tip my hat to you.

Answer 6

hi sweetheart ,youre in the relationship with the guy you love youre relationship wont change in anyway except for youre last name and a legal bit of paper ....so talk to the man you love and see what he thinks and if the time is right then it will happen ....and if not yet then youre still in this great relationship with this man and it could be due to his little girl that he is not thinking about marriage ...so for youre own sake ....stop worrying and by the sounds of things stop panicking ....and enjoy youre life by the sounds of things you have a strong relationship....look after each other take care xx

Answer 7

Everybody's "right time" is different, but ideally I guess as a woman is always good to make sure your education is complete so you can support yourself (in case things don't work out) but overall I don't think there is such thing as "the right time"  

Answer 8

When you're  pretty sure it won't end in divorce again.

Answer 9

Exactly! Wait for what? It's been two years!! Heck, I would have been re-married a year ago!

Answer 10

If you have already lived with him for two years then I would say anytime you want to would be fine.  I think your family is just comcerned about you because it sounds like you right from one straight into this one.  

But if you are both ready anytime is fine.  I will say if you are planning on having a big wedding though give yourself at least a year so you are not all stressed out.  You can have time to enjoy the process.

Answer 11

just like one more year