When is the right time to tell your parents your getting married?

Question

i am already engaged but planning to get married next march (maybe) but my fiance is in the airforce and is deployed so we dont have a set date of when he is coming back, all we know is January. i dont know when a good time to tell everybody espically my parents about the wedding if we dont even have a for sure answer about the month we want to get married?

and should i tell my parents by myself or wait til he returns back home and both tell them at the same time?

and we are not planning a wedding, we are going to eloped.

Answer 1

well , i would wait  till he gets back .  since you are not going to have a big wedding :)

  

Answer 2

Do What Ever Is Good For you But You Should Wait Until He Comes Back It Would Be Nicer For You Parents Giving In Consideration That You Are Going To Elope Good Luck ;)

Answer 3

2.39 am.  

Answer 4

Your question is kinda complicated with your plans..

Why are you so concerned on when to tell your parents that you're getting married if you guys are just planning to eloped?

Anyway, better tell them that you're engage and if they'll ask you when would be the wedding..just tell them will wait for your fiance to come back from his assignment and that's when you'll talk about or plan the date..

Answer 5

if you tell your parents before you get married do you think they will try and stop you? or tell you

a. don't you think you should wait

b. why are you rushing

c. finish school first you have the rest of your life ahead of you

d. do you know why he wants to marry you

e. where will you live

yep,,i hate when parents ask questions like that when you're all happy and excited to do something ON YOUR OWN with SOMEONE YOU LOVE

AND do you think your parents would get mad if you told them afterwards? like do they want you to have a big wedding? but i understand for wanting to tell your parents, especially your mom,,,you know moms are sentimental about things like that...

Answer 6

You don't have to give a wedding date when telling people you are engaged...announcing the engagement can be done by you to your family and by him to his...unless he wants to be there for both. That's a decision you and he have to make. But telling people you are engaged can be done as soon as you like...without the date.

Answer 7

Eloping means to get married without the permission or knowledge of the family, so if you tell your family, then you are not going to elope.

Eloping was a term used for the day when strict social custom dictated that a woman stayed home with her parents until she was "married off".  That way they could control to whom she was married and the family's approval was vital to her getting wed.

So, rebellious men and women of old, if they knew their family would not approve of the union, (quite often after having had a relationship in secret) would take off to another state or county, see a JP and get the deed done.  Then they'd come home whenever they pleased to make their announcement -- quite commonly with a baby in tow.

Today, a "wedding" can be as simple as having a few friends or special relatives be present for a brief ceremony conducted by a justice of the peace. Quite often JP's are prepared for this and some will even have their own ceremony that they offer to provide for the couple.  People get married at flea markets, the registrar's office, on boats, on planes, hotels, drive-thrus and whatever else.  Wedding doesn't have to mean white lace, big cakes, huge receptions and thousands of dollars in debt.

When you plan to tell your parents depends on how your parents view your relationship with your partner, how well your communication is with them and any other important factors that may be involved, such as wanting to include someone who may be terminally ill, or wanting to make the commitment before a potentially dangerous job undertaking.

If your fiance wishes to be present with you when you tell your parents, then I'd say by all means wait. I guess it would depend on how he wants to proceed. There are so many factors involved that a hard rock etiquette about this is ridiculous.  Use your own judgment based on what you both need.

Answer 8

well i can tell you as a mom of 2 teen girls, your mother wants to see her daughter get married.

if you have no burning desire totell them now, then wait till he gets back.

not haveing an exact  date set does not mean you cant tell people.

why dont you want families and friends at your wedding? you can keep it small and simple, like just in front of a "justice of the peace"

Answer 9

I would tell them your plans, just like you told us.  You don't have a certain date picked out but this is the month he'll be home and you plann on getting married then.  I married my husband in the Air Force at 18 years old, I'm now 24, it's  hard but it can be done.  Best of Luck, I would tell your parents very soon.