When kids so no remorse for doing bad things how do you handel their emotioal abuse?

Question

We do have the teens in councling and in a christan home but have a bad influance from there bio. mother. People are always saying how parents abuse the childern but sometimes the kids abuse the parents too and no one seems to reconize this.

Can someone out their please give some advise because I dont want my teens to grow up mean,hateful,lieing adults

Answer 1

unfortunately kids mimic what they see at home....if the child is showing signs of abusing others than there is a good chance it's happening within the home between parents or parent and child.

Especially if it's happening amongst all of your children. If it was just one child it could be something else completely....

How old are your children?

Answer 2

You need to set boundaries for the teens.  I did when my daughter was that age.  I knew who she was with, where she was, and there were consequences if she didn't obey the rules in the home. If she was late coming home without a phone call, then she couldn't go the next time she wanted too.  

If they are lying, you can tell.  Kids get nervous when they aren't telling the truth.  They will yell and walk away.  Stop them in their tracks.  You're the parent.  Don't yell.  Keep your cool.  Set them down and make them talk to you.

Their rooms aren't private.  You own the home.  You are paying the mortgage.  You have a right to know what's in that room.  No locks on doors.  If they don't like that, too bad.

I knew what was in my daughters' room at all times.  I paid for the home, she didn't.

Tough love.  I know it's hard, but it's worth it.