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When my husband and I are having a "talk" what does it mean:?

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So my husband and I are haveing serious trouble in our relationship and we were talking about it and his phone rings. And he answers it! Does that mean he really doesnt care about our relationship? I mean it was his Dad but we were haveing a real serious converstion. All they are talking about is his job. Why cant he call him back??? Im I wrong for feeling this way? Or would most of you feel this way too?

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He probably didn't think it was wrong to answer the phone when it rang.

If I were having a serious talk with my husband I would have answered the phone if it rang also. I have family, children, grandchildren, in laws.  What if something happened and they were calling to tell us?

You can always pick up the conversation where you left off once the call is done.  It doesn't mean you or the situation is not important to him.

When he is done just pick up where you left off.  You do need to get your problems resolved.  But dont' add more just because he answered a phone call.
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No, I think you're justified in feeling that way. It was rude of him and if he had any consideration for YOU, he would have called his dad back later.
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I think it was very rude and insensitive, but I bet you are over analyzing it because of all the other issues that you guys are having. I would let that one go and try to focus on the problems in the marriage, not the symptoms. Good luck!
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He was probably delighted to get away from the conversation.

I have no experience in this and I can't give you much advice but it does sound as if you aren't worried enough about how he's feeling about himself outside of how it effects you.

Being supportive and understanding can be the best way to bring someone around, no one will see that they're treating you unfairly if you are giving out to them.
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I think a person can only handle a heavy conversation for just so long and for just so many times. Maybe you need a break from the Talk and think of something Fun to do before you both forget how..
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answer, dont answer what difference does it make?  you have more pressing issues so dont lose focus on those to pick a fight over whether or not he should have answered the phone.

people do different things for different reasons.  when you try to analyze why (e.g. "does that mean he really doesnt care about our relationship") all you're doing is piling on BS instead of focusing on what really makes a difference.

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It's slightly easier for blokes to switch off when in conversation, not meaning he doesn't care about what you are talking, meaning his dad was calling... Most likely as simple as that, and maybe he doesn't feel that you are having as much as a problem with the relationship as you?
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Phone call about "just his job"? The source of the income that puts a roof over your head and food on the table? Obviously totally unimportant. Rethink your priorities; there is time to talk when the basic necessities of life are settled.
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1 - It was very rude of him to not tell his dad he would call back so that you & he can continue the discussion.

#2 - When you can get a word in, let him know in no uncertain terms about # 1.  After all, isn't your marriage important to him too?  Let him know too, that #1 does not help the situation that you are trying to resolve.

#3 - The only reason why some marriages are so difficult is because both husband & wife are not equally mature and able to see what is important to the relationship.  Therefore, one or the other has to make a larger effort.

Good luck - I hope it all works out for the best between you both.
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IF HE'S SERIOUS HE SHOULDN'T ANSWER HIS PHONE ALL HIS ATTENTION SHOULD BE ON YOUR CONVERSATION.
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Sure he knows what he is doing. Its like saying a mean thing just to hurt the other person, then latter you don't really mean them. People get disconnected with each other and honestly just don't like each other sometimes, especially in a marriage. This should be temporary and you should work through these feelings.
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I understand how u feel but have nice conversation with him about it it will help you in yourself and maybe even your argument, the same thing happend to me trust me if he really loves you he would put himself in your shoes and understand.

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a 1 on 1 talk could be that you need to talk one on one. it could be serious talk to him. (good luck)
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I am sorry..looks like he is cheating you....

Leave him, or do the same thing to him and watch how he feels about this..
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talk to him
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I would feel that way too.

It sounds stupid, but men aren't as perceptive as women. For men, when the phone rings, you answer it. No matter what.

I understand where you're coming from. But he probably doesn't even realize he did something wrong.

OR maybe the conversation was too intense for him and he wanted to take a break from it.
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