When people visit.?

Question

just curious....how many people out here dont mind someone just show up at there door ?.... how many would rather have a call first ?

Answer 1

Anyone who just drops by better have a darn good reason. I don't like unexpected guests at all.  It's more appropriate to call - what if you're in the middle of something that can't wait?  (or in a compromising position?)

Think of it this way:  your home is your sanctuary, where you don't have to be anyone but yourself and can relax, no expectations.  Why would a friend want to take control of your time, the time you need for yourself to unwind and de-stress?  Anyone worth their salt will call before dropping by.

Answer 2

I DO mind very much.  I would make it clear to them that they need to call me first before ever doing that again.  It is very rude to just show up when they feel like it and expect you to be okay with unwelcome visitors.

Answer 3

I mind terribly, as I am a semi-nudist, (only in my home).  I don't like being surprised at the door by people (and expect you to answer at first knock) and having to rush around dressing myself, when it take three seconds to call and say hey I'm coming.

Answer 4

if someone comes over and i am in the bath, , dressed badly, watching a really cool dvd, meditating, on the phone, reading, on my way out, napping or any of the other myriad of things i could be doing then i will not answer the door. so yes. call first.

Answer 5

I usually need to clean....so I prefer a call.

This guy I like in a tremendous way walked over to my apt. drunk the other night w/o a warning at 2:30 A.M. My apt. was trashed and he ridiculed me the entire 4 hours he was over. I realize I could have shut the door (which I did and offered him a ride back home) but he barged in and looked sooo good. I am mortified at how much of a slob I can be.

Answer 6

definitely call 1st Its rude to just come by unannounced You could have other plans You shouldnt have to drop all other plans or feel bad about having to tell this person you are not going to drop whatever your plans are just because they decided to come by without letting you know in advance So just let them know how you feel about them doing that Just be nice about it

Answer 7

always call before they come!! i dont like it when people come unexpected...because im wearing something i'd rather not have people see..i like being dressed up when im having guests...or sometimes things need to be picked up around the house!! just stuff like that...so alwaysss call!!

Answer 8

I would always rather be called. Not calling is inviting yourself over. When is it ever ok to invite yourself anywhere?

It's not like I'd normally turn someone away. I just want a little notice you're coming over.

Answer 9

I always call first, and I appreciate family and friends who call first.  Over the years, I cannot remember how many times family or friends have gotten angry with me for not being home when they decided to "pop in".  I tell them if they had called first, it wouldn't have been a wasted trip.

Answer 10

I'm one of those people who prefer a call first. I have a life too, and sometimes that life involves bathing the dogs or mowing the lawn or just reading and relaxing, and I don't really have the patience to be a good hostess if I'm interrupted while doing something like that.

I take it by your question that you've recently had some drop ins - how did you handle it?

Answer 11

OMG!!! What a good question.  If you are my bff and I don't feel like I need to entertain you, be dressed up, or have a **** and span apartment, you can drop by anytime.  But, if you are my bf's parents, I better know a day ahead of time that you are coming so I can make sure the apartment looks perfect so you don't go back and tell the rest of the world what a suck *** girl friend I am to your little boy.  My grandmother on the other hand gets offended if you even knock on her door, just supposed to walk right in.  (That would be my dad's mom)

Answer 12

I absolutely HATE when people show up without calling, or invite themselves over period.  I hang out all day in my pj's, I don't want to play hostess.  I think if you want to hang, call first and suggest doing something that day.  When both parties agree, you can say "So... where?  My place?  Your place?  4th & Main?".  I don't know what's wrong with so many people that they think it's okay to "drop in".  And they always stay so freaking long!  It's such an invasion.

Answer 13

I love it!  It makes me feel very loved and comfortable when people stop by.  I think the way to approach it, however, is to ask ahead of time if stopping by is a good idea.  Something like "Hey, I'm often in your neighborhood and feel like dropping by.  I don't know if you like surprise guests, though.  Would it be ok if I stop by unannounced next time I'm around, or should I always call first.  Either way is cool with me."

Answer 14

If I don't know you're coming to my house, I don't open the door.

Answer 15

No,not at all just come on over,my house is always clean,if I had company I would not have to do anything before they came.

Answer 16

I walk around naked, people have to call me first!  LOL!  Seriously, though, it's just the polite thing to do.  I try to never go to anyone else's house unannounced, so I expect the same in return.

Answer 17

Shouldn't have to make an appointment to let friends visit...I would rather they just drop in.