When should I conceive, without family shouting at me?

Question

I have a 3 yr old girl and another 15 week old girl and me and my partner would like to try for another soon. Would like our children early so we can have a rest after lol I am 24 years old and don't want family and friends telling me off and thinking bad about me. When do you think is the best time for me to conceive. Me and hubs said december/January time, but I'm worried about people looking down on me. Serious answers only please. Thank you :-)

Answer 1

It's up to you too, seriously don't worry too much about what ppl r saying. My friend has 15 months between her son and daughter - there's 17 months between my brother and me. It's up to you, if you think you can handle it go for it!!

Answer 2

You know hun if your family really care and love you sooo much who cares what they think your the one raising your children not them so they shouldnt even look down on you its not like your 14 or something just do it when you and your husband think is best. Dont let people get to you there mostly just jealous:D

Answer 3

Its got nothing to do with your family when you have a baby.  Its a desision to be taken between you and your husband.  Ignore them all & do your own thing.

Answer 4

It is absolutely none of their business when you start ttc!!  You can start ttc and they don't have to know until you announce the good news and if they don't like it forget them, it's ur decision!!!  I hate when people butt in like that, my family keeps asking me questions also.  Things like 'do you think this is the month?', etc...  Best of luck to you sweetie and remember it is you and your husband's decision, not theirs.

Answer 5

At the end of the day, it's up to you two to decide when the times right. If you can manage and have the finances to have more children then go for it. If the family thought anything of you two, then they would be happy for you both.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Good on you both!

I would say myself January or even March, then by the time the new addition comes along there will be nearlly two years between that one and your 15 weeker.

Good luck and remember, dont worry about what family and other people have to say, it is your family, not theirs and if you can cope and have enough love to go around (and patience... lol) I say go for it.

Wishing you well and happiness

Answer 7

its nothing to do with other people as long as your happy then its up to u! they should be happy that you are happy!

Answer 8

If you can afford it and have the time and energy for three kids, then go for it! You and your husband are the only ones who can decide on this kind of thing. No one else has to live your life, but YOU. If you're absolutely sure this is something you can handle, then go for it. But keep in mind it will probably be exhausting to take care of two babies, while going through the tiresome cycle of pregnancy. Hopefully you'll have some help. lol

Answer 9

Physically you are advised to wait at least a year (after giving birth) before conceiving again anyway, as your body needs time to get back to normal. With the best will in the world, you could end up struggling with having 3 children under 5 at home with you...remember 3 is a lot more effort than 2, especially when you're trying to get one sorted out to go to school, one is going to be starting to toddle and added to that you'd have a newborn to feed and take care of.

But enough of the lecture...

It's your choice, your family and friends have nothing to do with it.

I don't know how much support they give you, but if it's not a lot, tell them to mind their own business.

Answer 10

Don't worry about people looking down on you!  And you're a mother yourself so why would your family shout at you?  Only you know when the best time is to have another child.  So all the best to you and your little ones.

Answer 11

I understand, but why not wait until your youngest turns 1, at least? Time will fly by. I understand you wanting to have all your kids young, ( I do too) but at least give your body a little time to heal before the next one. Plus, enjoy your baby being a baby before you go get pregnant and get all those tiring pregnancy symptoms that can wear you down and have another baby to deal with.

As for the family, i understand that too, I'm in the same boat. I've learned that there is pretty much nothing you will be able to do about it. Family especially, and friends will always have their opinions on what you should do. Just do what you want to do. It is your life and you only get to live it once, so why live it the way others want you too? Your and adult, you know the pros and cons of having kids, so its your decision, not theirs. Sure, take advice, but also listen to your heart, if you want it bad enough and you know its the right time and you can handle it, then why not?  

Answer 12

Like the man even gets a choice in the matter......

Answer 13

If you and your husband are ready for another baby, don't worry about what other people think.