When should we get married before or after boot camp?

Question

My boyfriend is joining the marines and we have been getting all sorts of mixed answers about when we should or shouldn't get married. Don't get me wrong we are not just getting married cuz he is joining the marines we were goin to get married n-e way. We just don't know what is best. pls help.

Answer 1

Well, if you marry him before bootcamp and probally war it could boost his morale and give him something to fight for.

I remember how my father told me when he was in the service knowing that his wife was waiting for him back home got him through it all.

Answer 2

If you have more than two weeks before he goes to boot camp, get married now.  If you wait until after boot camp, he will only have a two week leave to get married in.

Answer 3

If you intend to get married in any case do it before because....

You get a housing allowance immediately

You get health and dental insurance immediately.

Your move to his first PCS duty station will be paid for.

Answer 4

Well its upto you 2 when you want to get married and when you think its the right time. you shouldn't be told when you should get married by others. But I would guess after boot camp because you have more time to think and plan it i guess and have even more to celebrate and be happy.

Answer 5

if your gonna get married anyways do it now cause if not after boot camp if your not married they will not pay for you to move only him and you can not live with him until after your married and it  will be harder to get married when he's in A lot of drill sergents will say if the army want you to have a wife they would issue you one but if you already are they can't say anything good luck with everything just remember millitary life will either make or break a marriage so be careful

Answer 6

After  

Answer 7

Do it after. he will be a Marine then.

Answer 8

Personally, I would wait until after boot camp, he is still growing and learning.

All of this will matter, to your relationship believe me. I was in the Navy, and I understand what you are talking about.I know how you are feeling, but believe me you will be a lot happier waiting, and you will see a marked difference in your boyfriend.

Good Luck

Answer 9

I would wait until after, thats what I did.  My best advice is to get married over a holiday.  We got married July 3rd cause i knew the army would have the day off.  Also remeber when planning your wedding the army owns him.  Make sure you tell all of your caterers, Dj, etc that due to him being in the marines the date is subject to change.  Make sure they are willing not to charge you any sort of penalty.  I didn't know until 3 days before our wedding if my groom was actually going to get the day off.  The army moved our stuff after he graduated basic too, cause he waited to have all his stuff shipped with mine.

Good luck to you

Answer 10

You don't mention your age but I am going to assume both you are young.  The best answer (which you asked for) is that you should wait 4 or 5 years till both of you grow up a bit (and mature). However, I was young and did the same thing (and as someone else posted am now divorced from that individual) and you probably won't listen to that advice (which I am sure your parents are also telling you) anyway.

Strictly speaking, you should get married now before he leaves.  Couple of reasons for that the biggest of which is that if you wait till after he graduates boot camp then you will not be a dependent as of the date he executes his orders.  That means the military will not fund your transportation/household goods to join him at his next duty station.  Someone else posted that there is also a pay difference which is true though the statement that it doubles your pay is completely inaccurate.  This would also give you the benefit of medical coverage while he is away.

Answer 11

My personal advice is to wait until after he is done with training, this way you will see if you guys can survive without always having ot be in contact and things like that. Him going through training will test you both and you will have a better idea if you guys can work things out and be together. I know he gets paid more during basic - but honestly if it turns out that you guys cant handle it - then that might be worse. This way you will have a chance to go and see what its going to be like and things like that. Im not saying not to - but i just think you should think abuot that if you guys are used to always being around eachother and things like that. if your needing someone to talk to feel free to email me [e-mail]

Answer 12

Seems like lots of people in the military get married young because your pay doubles if your married practically. I've had a lot of friends who have done this, not a single one is still together

Answer 13

I would do it before he goes, if you are serious about getting married. We waited untill after, and it was such a headache getting everything taken care of, moving, housing, id cards, insurance etc etc....the military does nothing at your convenience, so the more you can do to make it easier, the better!