When someone's rude to you, how do you...?

Question

What do you do? What's the best approach? I never want to be rude to anyone again. I never feel good about it. What's the best way to keep it from getting under your skin?

Btw

I think I could very easily ignore it, but is that the best way, or does it cause more provocation?

UGH! Help!!!

Answer 1

Well you could say to them ah hum" excuse me and give them a dirty

look bat your eyelash at them and walk away.

Answer 2

You say, "Excuse me, I was just wondering....is it uncomfortable to have that 10 foot pole up you ***?".

But seriously, sometimes it is just easier to ignore rude people, but sometimes a simple, calmly stated "you don't need to be rude, (smile) is there something I can do to help you out today?".  It's actually a hard question to answer, as you did not give any specifics.  Is this at work?  Home? on the street?

How to keep rude people from getting under your skin? Say a prayer for them, that they can find peace in their hearts, acknowledge they are struggling and haven't found their way yet.

And Jab, it's "do you kiss your mother with that mouth?". I've found it more effective!

Answer 3

Talk well with people,no attitude even if your upset be polite.If it seems like if someone is rude with you like, a friend\relative than somethings wrong.With a stranger well s***w them.

Answer 4

ignorin is usually the best thing to do, but it would depend on your demeanor and the circumstances

Answer 5

Rudeness is my pet peeve!  When someone is rude to me I have a decision to make - do I ask them to leave me alone or do I tell them they are being rude and ask them to stop?  If I do the first I also ignore them because I have determined that they are not the type of person that will change their demeanor.  The latter might think about their behavior and may decide to try to do better in the future.

Either way, I don't treat people rudely and I don't tolerate being treated rudely!

Have a great day!

Answer 6

Always consider why a person may be rude. Sometimes people are going through something and don't even realize they are being rude. When I am faced with someone rude, I usually just pile on the kindness thick... but still sincere. And I always tell them, I hope you feel better... have a good one!

Answer 7

I think most of the time it is best to just roll with it.

People are what they are and saying something won't change much.

There are situations, however, where you have to say something.

If someone you deal with on a regular basis is rude/inconsiderate/spiteful to you you will have to take a stand.

You don't have to be rude in return.  Certainly, standing up for yourself is in no way rude.  Politely highlighting the behavior and explaining how it is offensive and that you won't accept it any longer is plenty.

If that person insists on the behavior then they don't need to be part of your life.  

I have done this with co-workers.  There was a guy who was harrassing me at work.  At first I laughed it off.  He kept pestering me.  Finally, I told him that his behavior was unacceptable, I didn't want him within three feet of me and I wasn't speaking to him anymore.

It took all of about three days for him to come to me with an outright apology.  He didn't believe that I would not acknowledge him in any way.  When I carried through on my commitment he changed his behavior.  We wound up being very good friends in the end.

  

Answer 8

When people are rude, it's often best to just turn away.  If that is not possible, depending on what they say, you offer a comment that makes a statement that you don't intend to respond or that you find their comment offensive.  Do so in a light not confrontational way.  Otherwise you wind up in some sort of argumentative situation.  Not where you want to go.  Often people don't even realize how rude their comments are.  That is why it's best not to engage and to walk away.  Being rude in response is never appropriate.  It's just begs for confrontation.

Answer 9

people are usually rude because of first impressions and such - they don't really know you

this can easily be solved by getting to know them and talking to them

Answer 10

~~I believe in standing up for yourself, but sometimes, depending on the situation it is better just to walk away. Responding to anyone being a bully or just ignorantly rude does not accomplish anything, you sure aren't going to change them or teach them manners. If it is someone I know, then I may defend myself or my actions, up to a point. It just kinda depends on the situation.~~

Answer 11

if someones rude is probably because he/she has some kind of trouble so just smile for urself and think : my life is better

Answer 12

Well... if the comment was very hurtful, one of the most effective reactions is a "version" of ignoring... the hurt little boy/girl face....

You stare at the person with WIDE OPEN eyes... slowly tearing up... and allow your lower lip to "pout" a bit and then... almost imperceivably... quiver once or twice.  A soft, quiet sniffle is a nice touch.  Then, you can either slowly turn away and leave, or if you must remain in the "situation," to rather abruptly "pull yourself together," put an "I'll get through this" smile on your face, and continue with the conversation.

Have a polite day.

Answer 13

I remain calm and say, 'excuse me?'  If they repeat, you then say, 'that was uncalled for and I would appreciate your keeping such comments to yourself,' or 'thank you for the pointer,' or maybe 'have I done something to offend you?'  

Any of these answers will give pause to the person, hopefully.  

Most people make comments out of ignorance or fear.

If I know I will be unable to remain calm, I walk away.  Then I stay away.  Some people are unapproachable, sad to say.   It is in your best interests to be able to recognize them.

Hope this helps.

Answer 14

Generally I ignore rudeness but, if the person uses profanity, I often reply, "Do you eat with that mouth?"