When someone does something wrong or hurts you, how do you forgive them and forget everything?

Question

It could be a friend, a lover, a parent.. etc..

Answer 1

just let it go ' otherwise all you will ever do is bring you down .

Answer 2

"The stupid nether forgive nor forget;the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." ~Thomas Szasz

but all in all, you have to decide what is important to you. But that "disappointment" is the hardest thing to deal with.

good luck  

Answer 3

i don't i cant forget easily.

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Answer 4

You know what wounds take time to heal. We always say that time heals everything.0f course, if you want to forgive the person you will with time and start everything over.But personally i don't think i'll be able to forgive or forget everything if the person really hurt me. Nowadays everyone is becoming stonehearted and some don't even care the about the bad that they caused to you..So better be more careful and forgive the person if he really deserve too.

Answer 5

ugh, when a friend does that.

i just wait for them to say sorry.

when its like my mom or something important.

i have to say sorry, its my mom you knowww.

Answer 6

I don't,

only an idiot forgets-

depending on what it is, I might forgive, but if you forget they will do it again and it is then YOUR fault because you let them do it to you the second time.

Answer 7

If it's pretty egregious, you may not forgive them right away, or ever. That's how it is sometimes. If it's something merely crappy, realize this person's limitations, whether your expectations for them were too high, and readjust your expectations accordingly. That is the forgiveness. Forgetting is something your brain might do or not. You don't really control memory.

Answer 8

Everyone, yes, everyone does f'd up things.  You've got to see people as what they are.  They're just people.  They do some good things and some bad things.  If you can view them the right way then you shouldn't have a need to forget what they've done.

Answer 9

if its your friend have a fight us guys get over that c**p quick.

Answer 10

By coming to the realization that we are all human.  We all make mistakes.  And by realizing that we are all capable of making mistakes.  No one is perfect.  It doesn't change the hurt or take it away, but sometimes realizing that helps you be a little more forgiving.  Some day you may be asking for forgiveness yourself.  

Again, it doesn't take it away, but it does help.

Answer 11

HOW YOU WANT TO FORGiVE THEM iS UP TO U AND iT iS ALSO UP TO U iF U CHOOSE TO FORGET ALTHOUGH THAT iSNT THE MOST WiSE THiNG TO DO BECUZ iF U DO SO THEN iT iS LiKELY TO HAPPEN TO U AGAiN.

YOU HAVE TO REACH DEEP DOWN AND JUS FORGiVE THE PERSON..i HAD TO TURN TO GOD BECUZ i LiTERALLY HATED SOMEONES GUT AND i KNEW THAT WASNT RiTE SO YEA...HE HELPED ME THRU THAT

Answer 12

You don't forget...but if you can and want to forgive, that's possible. It takes time to build the trust and respect back but you can get there eventually. You can accept what happened, but you can't forget it because it'll always be a part of your life.

Answer 13

Well,

It depends on how close this person to you...

If this person is really close to your heart, think of ....4 or 5 days ahead, when everything is settled and u r ok, you will find out that it doesnt matter whether he/she is wrong or not..what matters is that things will clear out..

But, the most important thing is that this person must know that you were hurt..deeply hurt (if i m not mistaken), he/she needs to know that you can forgive but they need to promise that they wont do it again..

When a person makes a mistake for the first time, it is very easy to forgive and in a very short while you will forget everything..

But when the same mistake keeps on happening..then you SHOULDNT....because then you would be mistaken if you considered forgiving and forgetting....

Time can heal the worst hurt and betrayels...as long as they are first timers....

Wish i helped..

Answer 14

it depend on the type of the harm

some times you can forgive ur enemy on some mistakes but some times u cannot even forgive ur friend,love etc for a mistake  

Answer 15

Forgive....maybe it depends. Forget....NEVER!

Answer 16

friend --> forgive but don't forget

bf --> dump them depending on how bad it is

parents - they would never do anything to hurt me anyways

Answer 17

You can never forget, but you can forgive if you choose to.  Some people don't give second chances but it's up to you.  Depends how wrong what they did to you was.  =)