When to leave a man for another?

Question

Hi I have been with my bf for a year . From day one he has never had a job and always saying he is going to get one he still dont have one and claims he is looking. I have been taking care of him and I am so tired of it and I am seven yrs younger than him !! On top of that he is extremely jealous and insecure. So he drains me financially and emotionally. I am just frustrated to the point I want to leave him . I am not even attracted to him anymore. I dont even like having s*x with him let alone just a kiss. But I fear the idea of leaving him based on my level on comfort and the fact that I have gotten used to him but at the same time I am not happy. Now there is this other guy I have messed with before I met my bf . This guy had a girl bf. So basically I was his chick on the side until I got tired of it. He never used to like to talk about his girl. He admitted he had one but never explained anything. Now he claims he is single and he wants me and I really love him and want him but im afraid. So what shall I do? Should I leave my man for the next ? Or left both of them alone? Please help. thanks!

Answer 1

Tell  your b/f that from now on you are living on half of what you earn so you can invest.

Answer 2

I THINK LIFES TO SHORT TO WASTE ON A LOOSER LIKE THE GUY U HAVE RIGHT NOW,,,DUMP HIM,,,NOW!!! N DONT LOOK BACK,,GIVE THIS OTHER GUY A CHANCE TO MAKE U HAPPY,BUT TELL HIM YOUR NOT JUMPING INTO ANY RELATIONSHIPS WITH HIM,TILL YOUR SURE THATS WHAT YOU WANT,,LIVE LOVE B HAPPY....PEACE

Answer 3

Leave them both. Neither sound like a good idea.  

Answer 4

Leave them both alone. Use your head woman!

Stop wasting your time in a relationship where you aren't happy. That's just stupid and a waste of your time/life.

Next, why would you get with a guy who cheated with you in the past? You already know he's not the faithful type so don't waste your time on him.

Spend some time getting to know you again, and becoming an independent and self-sufficient woman. Then consider dating someone who is worth your time and emotion.

Answer 5

you do NOT leave one guy for another

that will be disasterous

leave and be independant

you dont NEED a man

Answer 6

I say leave your boyfriend, and go hang out with the other guy. Don't rush into a relationship though. I have to say though, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 7

First resolve your first relationship, and when you leave it let it be for your self worth and not becuase the next guy seem better, do you really love him or do you love the fact he is what your bf is not. your about to go from bad to worse, It is never good to leave someone for someone else. I have not heard how do you feel about you. First find yourself and then the man of your dreams will find you. We get the kind of relationships we want by how we see ourself. If you feel unworthy then you will take on almost any kind of person as not to be alone when we feel like we are the best then we tend to look for the best