When to pierce a little girl's ears?

Question

I am due in December with my first little girl. I am obviously anxious (after having 2 little boys) to do all of the girly things with my daughter. One of the first things that crosses my mind is ear piercing.

I had my ears pierced when I was 5. I remember it like yesterday. They used one of those ear piercing guns and tag teamed my ears.. It was traumatic and the healing took forever because of how active I was. My mom tried to even apologize with ice cream and even it didn't calm me. It is the ONLY memory I have from such a young age.

So I am considering piercing my daughters ears when she is an infant. I have heard that caring for them while they are young and relatively inactive is rather easy and that the earlier you do it the more second nature it is to them.

I do know though that many people find infant ear piercing immoral and cruel. I don't see it being nearly as cruel as circumcision and I have 2 circumcised boys (who were NOT circumcised for religious reasons). I sort of see it as a right of passage... Newborn boys get circumcised and girls get pierced.

Some might say that it is my daughter's choice and right to have her ears pierced but I have never heard of a little girl who didn't want (if she didn't already have) her ears pierced. This in my opinion just saves her the memory of the painful experience. And, I know second hand that if she decides later in life to not wear earrings, the holes WILL close up. I had my ears pierced for 16 years before I quit wearing earrings (for no particular reason) and my ears are no longer have holes 3 years later).

What are your opinions though?

Answer 1

for goodness sake.

Its your daughters desicion whether or not she wants random holes in her body! Who are you to judge fashion or how other people portray your daughter! you should love her regardless.its shallow! and cruel! (from an outsiders view, it looks really tacky on a baby)

it doesnt hurt that much at all- your daughter isnt a mouse- she can handle it.

surely you should be worrying about more important things like post-birth help and financial support?

I was 10 when i got it done ad i had to beg my mom for a few years because she said i shouldnt care what people thought of me, and she didnt want me to do something id regret

Answer 2

Do it when she turns 2 months old. She wont remember it.  

Answer 3

get them done when she's an infant. i had mine done when i was about 9. i wish my mom would've done mine when i was an infant

Answer 4

u should do it when she's a baby...my ears are still not pierced cuz my mom never took me and its gonna hurt now if i get it pierced...im in high school....at least she won't remeber the pain...def. go for it  

Answer 5

First and foremost, babies with peirced ears look ridiculous, there is no need for an infant to have peirced ears.

On a side note, it is much more painful for an infant to have their ears peirced because instead of all soft tissue they have more cartilage in their ear lobes. In the past I worked at an esabilisment that did ear peircing and doing so to infants was frowned upon for that reason. Your child has a higher rate of infection as well, not to mention that sleeping with earrings is very uncomfortable, especially when you are that small.

Sorry you had such a painful experience, it really doesn't hurt that bad. Wait a few years, when she is still small and do it then

How can you compare circumcision to ear peircing, one is a necessity one is a novelty.

Think twice and check out the below links for some more reasons not to do it.  

Answer 6

If I have a little girl I am going to get her ears pierced. I know my sister in law had both of her girls ears done while they were young I wanna say about 3 or 4 months old. The healed fine and both have earrings in. I totally agree on getting a little girls ears pierced when they are young it is less traumatic.