When two preschool children are playing no prob. but when third child plays fighting starts how do i deal?

Question

with this to stop them fighting all the time i want them to be able to all play together

Answer 1

have you ever heard of twos a company threes a crowd

Answer 2

Discussion talk about being kind to each other, ensure there is sufficient equipment to go around. If a game is in progress when the 3rd child joins ask the last child to wait for another space and redirect to different activity.

Answer 3

you need to review the activity that is going on first.  What are they playing; is it appropriate for 3 or more children?  Children learn by example.  You should play with them in this situation and show them right from wrong.  It takes time.  It is highly important to defuse the problem as soon as you see it, but do it in a calm, but firm manner.  As time goes on it may be necessary to become a little firmer in discipline, but everything you do is an example to them.

Answer 4

the fighting child needs a time out to explain how we play nice.

might have a lesson in regards to waiting there turn or ect if toys are involved. In addition to the lesson in behavior must be communicated. Warn what the consequences are to them if they fight again. then try the playing again and wait and watch close for the next infraction.

re     Then punish. The punishments can be no deserts, treats, tv. Good behavior should also be rewarded with praise and thanks as well as an occasional treat like stars on the homework or what ever treats u decide that work for that child

,toys, sit in corner time out, one on one punishments like forcing them to do school work during play time like the addition subtraction flash cards are a killer punishment that also helps teach while removing them from other children where they are causing problems. I see a large% of behavioral issues with kids today are a result of lack or time spent with them and crazy high sugar diets as well as lack of consistent parenting to include a variety of disciplines when rules are broken. Kids learn fast, Make a list of rules then post em on refrigerator. If in class post em on doorway leading into classroom or ect. The scolding and spanking generally speaking almost can be reduced to a few times when kids just get crazy out of control. I know most child development psychologists are saying we cannot spank or touch a child but I personally believe this last resort thing can be used every so often if things get out of hand. You would be amazed what one slap to the behind can do. doesn't even have to be a hurtful slap as much as a show that this is unacceptable behavior that results in instant quick and swift punishment.

Answer 5

I taught 3-4 yr olds at a day care and I would simply remove the children from the situation.Also you could give the children all something they can do together, give separate toys,do another activity.

I also believe in a time away from the situation/aka:time out, if the fighting continues.I hope that this helps you!Good luck:-)

Answer 6

This third child needs to learn how to make friends - he needs to be more socialized.  that's what preschool is for - teaching us all how to get along.

Answer 7

Add A fourth Person..............Then They Can All Play With Someone