When where and how do i tell him?

Question

I'm 2 months pregnant and I don't know how to tell my boyfriend. He already has a 13 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I'm still not sure if I want a baby I mean I'm still only 25!! HELP

Answer 1

You need to sit down with your partner and just be straight with him. Talking is all you can do on this and between you come to the right decision that is best for you both. There will be no easy way. **** Luck. The sooner you tell him the better.

Answer 2

if i were u..i would ask myself if u really want the baby...would u have it even if ur partner leaves..? if u really dnt want the baby ..even if u love each other and want to be together..dont tell him and consider the abortion..

Answer 3

You are 25 and you have a 13 year old daughter?

Well look at it this way, you will be much more ready for this child as you have been through it before. Theres never a good time to drop a bombshell, but whatever your decision, he has to know.

Answer 4

Well, many women get panic attacks when they find out for the first time. You need to resolve your feelings/fears, weigh your options and come to a decision quick. Remember there’s a third life involved here, so don’t procrastinate with thoughts of when, where and how.  You’re both responsible for the outcome, so just go ahead and speak to your boyfriend asap. It might be a good idea to lay down the facts, without any frills. Once you know where he stands, you’re in a better position to work out actions for the future.  

Answer 5

I dont believe in abortion but if u cant take care of the child then do it or give it up for adoption. If it is a case where u can take care of it but just dont want to then tell him & both of u decide what is best for ur relationship. Is it that he is still with his first baby mother or both of u are not in a serious relationship y u dont want to have it? If so still tell him & make the decision together, u dont want to do anything that u might regret.

Answer 6

Dear Mom to Be:

You definitely need to sit down with your boyfriend.  Take him to dinner, somewhere quiet and tell him there is a reason you called this date.  And tell him, you are now projecting what his feelings will be and you are also anticipating his reaction.  Don't do this!  He may not be upset, and he may want another child now after 13 years.  If you feel that at 25 you are not ready, tell him that at dinner--but don't make assumptions.  Also, what type of dad is he to the 13 year old?  Are they close, is he supportive of her, these are things that should be considered too.  What is your lifestyle--have you completed your studies?  Are you working, do you have your own place?  Now is the time to be looking for realistic solutions.  I would never advocate for abortion or divorce, it's such a personal choice but ask yourself some of the above questions and if you can answer them honestly in a positive light then "celebrate" but if there are tons of other issues....you might have to reconsider.

Think about it but more so, protect yourself in the future.

Love!  

Answer 7

Yes, you are 25 but I believe that is the time to pull yourself up by the boot straps and take responsibility in your life.  Twenty-five means you are not a teenager anymore.  You need to tell him because if he really is someone you care about, he should know that he has a potential child on the way.  You are an adult.  It's time to play the part, girl.  There is no other way to say it.  If you want to have an abortion that is up to you but either way, you need to tell your man.

Answer 8

IF YOU KNEW U DIDNT LIKE KIDS U SHOULD HAVE HAD PROTECTION,,I THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE THE BABY,,CAUSE YOU NO IT WILL BREAK THE GUYS HEART IF HE FINDS OUT U EVEN THOUGHT OF ABORTION,,,AND,AFTER U HAVE THE BABY U MIGHT DESIDE TO JUST LET HIM HAVE THE LITTLE GIRL OR BABY BOY,,SO U CAN GO OUT N HAVE YOUR FUN,,,PEACE

Answer 9

There is no easy way of telling him so just sit him down and tell him. If you keep putting it off or wait until the right moment the kid will be at school! Then I would seek advice on your options. Don't make a snap decision and think about it properly. Good luck!