When will I stop being so obsessed with my physical appearance? ?

Question

I can't control it, and I've learned to accept it. When though, should I stop caring so much? Is there a general age?

Answer 1

There is no age.  You can be 80 and still be obsessed with how you look.

The only way you will stop being obsessed is to distract yourself with other activities, problems, or issues.

Answer 2

You'll stop obsessing so much when you decide that you want to be known for something other than how gorgeous you are, or how you revel in your appearance. What do you want to do, be known for, if you left the world today, how would you want people to remember you? A good friend, a selfless person, caring, athletic, determined- just focus on something you care about. You're not going to just become "ugly" or unattractive because you put more time and effort into something important, in fact, you'll be seen as more attractive. If you already are on the outside, then you should do what you can to make yourself attractive on the inside, too.

Answer 3

Do you believe that others accept you better when you know you look your best? - You are leaving your self worth and value in the hands of others, and you need to accept yourself, being vulnerable to be yourself, and realise that judging by others is their problem, not something you have to do anything about, to not be offensive to them....they are the ones with the hang ups if that is the problem they have. Clothes do not make the man, but the can help you fake it until your inner self esteem catches up, but should not be the only thing you rely on. Maybe doing something like not doing your hair for the day and not explaining yourself to anyone, and getting thourough all the bad self thought that crop up....comforting yourself with the truth that you know why you are getting used to it, and that other's opinions don't matter.

Do you also realise it is a lie to believe you "are only your body", and that the other parts of your personality do not need maintenance as well. You have a Spirit your true self, that you need to listen to, it will help you find the right path for our life....your soul, your emotions, thinking and power to choose, working on your mind and mental health will keep you in good stead to have a good life.....THEN comes the body, it is just the outer shell that keeps you on the planet. So not the most important part of you, just the bit others can see.

Maybe that helps, maybe not, but all the best for the future.

Mel

Answer 4

No matter what age you are, this could just be a phase in your life that you are going through, and in the process learning more about yourself and your personality. Though you should always keep in mind that you should look and dress in a presentable manner and appropriate for every situation, also remember that there are still greater things in life like enjoying social events, going on vacation, doing good work, etc. You do what you want, as long as no one gets hurt.

Answer 5

When you have more depth!

Answer 6

What is your confidence and self esteem like?  It sounds like these areas are under developed.  Accept and love yourself first.  Looks are skin deep; it's what is on the inside that counts.