When will anti-feminists finally accept responsibility for the negative circumstances in their own lives?

Question

When will they accept the fact that the negativity that permeates their lives has more to do with irresponsible personal choices than women or this elusive "feminized society" they fantasize about?

You have the same choices as anyone else and all you have accomplished is divorce and bitterness. Again, personal, irresponsible choices.

I'm expecting honest answers.

At what point will accept your own choices as the primary cause of what happens in your lives?

In case you missed it:

At what point will accept your own choices as the primary cause of what happens in your lives?

Answer 1

How does pointing out the hypocrisy of feminism = not accepting responsibility?

This question make no sense.

Answer 2

" . . . And iron my shirt too..."

@Paul M:  Sure.  Don't bother taking it off first.  C'mere.

Answer 3

Hmmmmm....  when was the last time I heard a man blame some supposed matriarchy for his problems...  oh wait, that never happened.

Men have been accepting responsibility for their own actions and choices all along.  But I guess some people project their own problems on others.  So, I'm not surprised that this question exists.  Ever seen Dead Poet's Society?  Well, you have to look at things from more than your own perspective to really see what's going on in the world.

Although, politicians...  well, they're a whole other breed of people.  Full of sh*t no matter what gender.

Answer 4

Huh?  What does this have to do with feminism or anti-feminism?

You are discussing one of the few issues that easily bridge the gender gap.

Answer 5

I am an anti-feminist and I have always accepted that I am responsible for the choices I make in life. I have no negativity in my life. Seems to me that it is usually feminists that look for someone to blame for THEIR bad choices. What is this divorce business? I am willing to bet that there are many more divorced feminists that divorced anti feminists. Do you actually know the definition of the terms you are using??

Answer 6

You rock. Thank you for alleviating my frustration!

Answer 7

Bravo! I hope the anti-feminists to whom you refer get a mental kick in the pants from this one.

Answer 8

I do each and every day; then I go on from there; after all it is the normal thing to do. I am anti-feminist because of me; not you or anyone else.  I made my bed and yes, I do lie in it.

Answer 9

I hope everybody takes some responsibility for the irresponsible choices they make in their lives..... Regardless of their personal beliefs!

Answer 10

What does 'anti-feminism' have to do with anything?

Are you responding to another poster? This is a non-sequitor of a question.

Answer 11

"accept responsibility for the negative circumstances in their own lives" - Negative circumstances...as in..I may not get through this interview cuz this female turned up? Oh yeah ! I m accepting responsibility for the mistake of being a male !

Answer 12

I was just beginning to think this way and then the US and UK invaded my country(Iraq) and sort of f*cked it all up :-D

Answer 13

Another reversal, comedy gold!

I agree with you, everyone should take responsibility.

PS I'm sure all the "antis" would welcome any discussions and challenges, but PLEASE do something other than turn  questions around girls!

Who do anti feminists blame anyway, the anti-patriarchy?

Answer 14

LOL!  Ok. This is such a sensible arguent that I have totally seen the light. Now I will just hand myself in to the police for all the insulting of women I have been doing on G&WS. Where's my phone...

Answer 15

And they're still whining. You can lead a whiner to logic, but you can't make him think.

Answer 16

When will feminists learn to come up with original questions?

More women are graduating college yet virtually no innovation has come from women. You should be more concerned with figuring out a way for women to come up with contributions other than demands and complaints.

Answer 17

I really have a had time believing even 1 in 10 of the "anti-feminists" around here are real.  I think when people stop giving them the attention they are dying for they will "accept" and go away.

Answer 18

They never will.  People who hate need a scapegoat, and they cling to that goat because it means not having to face the truth about themselves or their circumstances.

That's why people create these figments of their imaginations.  They don't want to accept reality.

That, or they just hate women and think that by attacking the core of female equality, they can quell the ideals of freedom.

Answer 19

They you go girl ! Awesome !! Good for those anti-feminist losers !!!

Answer 20

The day they meet a woman who can:

Outthink them

Outwork them

Outperform them

Outinvent them

And still treat them with respect

That is often the day when an Anti Feminist realizes his/her thinking is not true for all women.  Until someone proves them wrong, by example, they will stick to their bitter ways.  I have been lucky enough to have had the opportunity to be one of these examples, and watch some men change their minds.  And some women say how did she do that?  It's a beautiful thing.

Answer 21

I don't have any negative circumstances in my life....I have been really blessed so far. Does that burst your bubble?

Answer 22

The problem is some men approach feminism from their  abnormal psychological pathologies (mommy issues, misogyny, magical-cognition and numerous behavioral disorders / complexes). They're not in it to achieve consensus in any constructive mature way but rather to vent, harm, reduce others and blame.  It's a disease.  Most of the sexist / emotionally disabled or predatorial behaviors expressed here on this site actually match the FBI's early profile for school / mall type shooter, for example.



(pg. 17 FBI Shhoter Threat Assessment)

Low Tolerance for Frustration

Poor coping skills

Lack of Resiliency

Failed Love Relationship

Injustice Collector

Signs of Depression

Narcissism

Alienation

Dehumanizing Others

Lack of Empathy

Exaggerated Sense of Entitlement

Attitude of Superiority

Exaggerated or Pathological Need for Attention

Externalizes Blame

Masks Low Self-Esteem

Anger Management Problems

Intolerance

Inappropriate Humor

Seeks to Manipulate Others

Lack of Trust

Closed Social Group

Change of Behvaior

Rigid and Opinionated

Unusual Interest in Sensational Violence

Fascination with Violence-Filled Entertainment

Negative Role Models

Whereas, others more appropriately approach the politic of feminism from the emotionally stable constructive adult political standpoint of how to help somebody rise rather than how to blame or reduce others. So, there's this "cognitive dissonance" here like a Habitat For Humanity meeting with racists attending constantly and whining everytime a Black family is chosen to receive a new home and never ever once actually ever helping to build a home for ANYONE.  

It troubles me in a way that a Habitat For Humanity group, for example, sends some message that keeps the racist weirdos away and yet women's issues "meetings" send some message that gives sexist weirdos the idea they are welcomed or have some legitimate right to be there.  They don't.  This is a free country.  People have the right to build houses the way they want to in their organizations or categories or meetings.  Masons don't tolerate women showing up at their meetings every week to rage at them about how stupid their are or how wrong they are.  

What concerns me is our own "role" or behaviors as women, whatever acculturations women continue to be plagued with that perhaps "maternally" or whatever leads us to send whatever messages that "invite" those who have no intentions of constructively building anything. It's as though some women are participating in feminist discussions with anti-feminists on some similar psychological gonadal contentious dichotomy level, enjoy that, rather than on a political adult level of getting some houses built, so to say.

I think women need to participate more in male-dominated social service organizations to learn better whatever that message or behavior is that men seem to be able to get across that doesn't confuse "freedom of speech" with vandalism and dishonorable / pathological motives or agendas.  I suspect the more disturbed a man or predator may be in his "gender" issues, the less likely he would be brave enough to hang out with men and would instead hang out with women whom he thinks are easier targets or prey.  And, they don't rate as serious adult contributors to consensus building.  I resent, in a way, that once again women get stuck nursing and mothering needy boys and men even in our political organizations.  It's not that we don't care about them.  It's just that they are barking up the wrong tree and it's not our "gender" duty within this political movement to help them grow up or heal.  That's what we have psych hospitals and the FBI for.  The moment "blaming" shows up in an issue, it really needs to be posted over in YA Psychology category.  GWS is not a psych ward or childcare facility.

Answer 23

Why is it women can't load dishwashers? Back to your question. Methinks you take life much too seriously. In my world we take it all with a pinch of salt. You seem to need some form of imaginary confrontation to whip youself into a frenzy. I can manage without such extreme opinions, anti or pro and although I hold strong views about many things I don't let them run my life.

Answer 24

Everyone needs to accept this. Even if you've actually been slighted, dwelling on and trumping up disparity only serves to make you a bitter person. At the end of the day, you and only you are responsible for your physical and mental well being.

Answer 25

OK, so we have now established that you seem to have changed the word 'feminist' to 'anti-feminist' from the otherwise exact same question asked by someone else.

Unfortunately for you, this makes your own question, whilst touching on the satirical, absurd in face of the facts, whilst making you sound bitter yourself- and not even having the grace to reference the original question.

For instance, the sentence 'You have the same choices as anyone else and all you have accomplished is divorce and bitterness. Again, personal, irresponsible choices'.  

What is your definition of an 'anti-feminist' anyway? Someone who hates women? Someone who would prefer to provide enough for their wife that she doesn't need to work? Or someone who has deduced that they don't agree with some feminist ideas?

Most obviously, though, feminism supports the idea of divorce so your reversal of the original question is pretty weakly implemented.

At first I thought that this question was either blinkedly left-wing or as conceited and bitter as its imaginary 'target'- now I see it's just weak plagiaristic 'satire'.

Ignore the question.

Answer 26

I am always amazed that people (this can be anyone, not just people with or without certain political associations) can generally find any excuse to dissolve themselves of responsibility for their actions.

When people learn to accept that they are the common denominator in all their relationships and that if their relationships are "bad" than it has to be something about them...that's when things can change.  Until then, the only results you are ever going to have are the same ones that you had before.  Let us not forget that the definition of insanity is doing the exact same thing over and over and expecting different results.