When will i have happy times?

Question

I'm 32 and have suffered with anxiety and depression for the last 14 yrs - which I'm receiving treatment for. My friends have children and i have a gorg niece and nephew but i feel when will my time come? I feel happy things happen for other people and i feel like i have a side life. The anxiety stops me from doing things and i don't know if i could deal with a relationship. Any advice pls?

Answer 1

ok

i think you are a really brave woman it takes a lot to open up and get treatment for depression that on its own is a quality a lot of women don't have but most men love..bravery

now it seems you are focusing on a lot of bad things.. negative thoughts etc

this can't be making things any easier

instead focus on the great things like you said family and friends

trust me every woman has someone they are destined to be with.

trust me it took me a long while.

i have now settled down,

and so will you as time goes by.

if you were to walk into a club with nothing but a stained white t-shirt

and a pair of ripped pants, i can guarentee at least 3 men will be attracted to you if you talk to them, because of your personality.

instead of feeling anxious of whats coming round the corner try to feel curious, almost exited and this will definatly help.

i know ,as my sister went through a lot of postnatal depression with her first child.

and i know  you cant just click your fingers and make it go away, but you can certinally make a huge difference because if you think you will get better soon it will pay off

most emotions are linked with psyhcological feelings

i was told two years ago i was infertile

i am 22 and this hit me like a truck

allthough i was unable to go out of the house for weeks for fear i would see a mother pushing a pram and break down in tears i soon started

looking through the addoption agencies and soon overcome my fear when i was blessed with little maya

it drained a lot out of me but i really believed things would turn out ok

this helped me loads

when the right man walks by take this to your advantage because THE real man  WILL stand by you in whatever. i know this from experience and have been on both sides of the situation.dont worry

the waitingis the hardest part get through that and on the other side will be a wonderful life

good luck and stay positive

I PROMISE HE IS OUT THERE SOMEWHERE!!

i hope ive helped

x x x

Answer 2

fall inlove

Answer 3

Obviously you are in a difficult situation with your health problems, do you have a councillor or someone you can talk to to put things in perspective and help you get your head around things? Tomorow is another day, try and start something new, is there anything you really aspire to do, for yourself, not for anyone else. Its time you looked at your own life and developed some confidence and focus on the positive things in your life, you are very young you can turn this around.

Best of luck I hope you find some happiness x

Answer 4

Hi, I am 26 and suffer similar things to you.  I have social anxiety which makes me really low and depressed as I find goingn out and being around people really difficult.  The only difference being is I am married and have a fantastic Husband for support and love, so I guess i'm lucky in that way.  You need to try and stay open minded and see what happens, i'm sure there is someone out there for you.  Try talking to a friend and doing the things you enjoy to make you feel better about yourself.  I know it's hard but you will get there xx