When will the stress ofthe wedding really end???

Question

my partner and I will be married on 13th Sept the final arrangements are just about done, both of us are under tremendous ammount of stress at the moment and it is beginning to affect our relationship...not to the point where we are questioning our love for each other but definately causing friction in the household about minor decisions such as table arangements etc...

when is it going to end? and have other people experienced these pre-wedding symphtoms?

Answer 1

The stress will end when you are finally walking down the aisle, and realize that everything came out perfectly, and everything looks beautiful, and your dream wedding is only just begun. I have been married 13 years, and planning our wedding was stressful as well. Especially the table arrangements. We got called almost every day by people telling us. "Don't sit me next to Barbara:, Don't sit John Next to Stanley, Blah, Blah, Blah. It took us a total of 2 weeks to finally get peope at each table who "got along". There will always be friction, when planning a wedding. But soon you will see how worth it, it really was.  

Answer 2

In bed or when you will hug him thightly !

Answer 3

I know most people suffer from this but you need to find a little perspective. I think there is maybe more pressure now than ever because of all the options available and choices to make.

If you are so uptight about the big day, how will you enjoy it? It is supposed to be special, fun and memorable. What's the worst that can happen? - something goes wrong and it spoils your enjoyment somehow (unlikey)!! But you are not enjoying it anyway at the moment.

I know it's easier said than done, but chill out and embrace the occaision. Hopefully, you get to do it once!

We had things go wrong at our wedding (like the cake fell off the table during speeches and rolled across the floor!). But we had a really fun day.

Just enjoy and if c**p happens, laugh at it.

Answer 4

Why are you stressing? My husband and I were so calm during our engagement.  The most important part is that you love each other and you are getting married.  You've done your planning and now you have to relax.  Make sure that you haven't forgotten anything and confirm everything.  Do not let it affect your relationship.  That is ridiculous.  Don't be one of those bridezillas. My sister in law was a bridezilla on her wedding day and by the end of the day I couldn't stand her.  She couldn't enjoy her special day because she was so worried about everything being perfect.  I feel bad for my brother for being stuck with her.  If you have done all your planning then you have nothing to worry about.  Just enjoy your special day and whatever happens happens.  I hired a band with a male and female singer and on my wedding day she had laryngitis.  So what.  I couldn't change it so I wasn't going to stress about it.

Answer 5

It will end when you stop obsessing about little meaningless details such as colors schemes and centerpieces. It's not worth it and no one ever notoces the difference between ivory and off white.

Chill!

Answer 6

I lived with him while making arrangements.  He put stress on me by telling me that he was too involved in his work to be worried about it.  I ended up doing all of it.  I was a waste-case by the time the wedding got there.  The beginning of the honeymoon wasn't all that great, either.

Relax, breathe, hug, dance, find a happy place together.  Take some time  out to just be a couple.

Good luck.

Answer 7

I experienced the pre-wedding stress , my heart with you it is not easy for both of you , you  want it to be perfect ,and  to end fast , and still have to think that from now on your life is going to change ( for the best don't worry )

It will end the moment you say I do , that moment you know that you  will never be alone , that there is someone you can depend and love for the rest of your life .

I will tell try to relax although am sure that it is difficult .

And last Congradulations , hope you will have Great life togther  

Answer 8

Set A Certain Time In The Day For You To Sit Down, Both Give Your Ideas & See If You Can Meet In The Middle.

Some Tension Is Totally Normal, Making The Perfect Day Always Is Stressful. But Just Imagine, It Will All Be Worth It On Your Wedding Day & You'll Forget About All The Friction Cause It Wont Matter.

=)

Good Luck.

Answer 9

once you have tied the knot!

Answer 10

Hi. It will end the moment you put on your wedding dress xx Good Luck. Enjoy yor wedding day xx

Answer 11

Ah, the wedding curmudgeon speaks!

They will end when you both decide that obsessing over this or that little detail etc. isn't worth the effort and stress.

Not before.

That's one reason why I despise big weddings.  

Answer 12

We've got the same thing, we marry in November, Its so stressful and we have words when it gets too much but we know we love each other and work thro the problems, Just make sure you keep showing your love, as for when it ends, when the day is over..

Good Luck

xx

Answer 13

It wont really end till the wedding is over and done with! I suggest you take a weekend away from the planning, you dont have to go away anywhere but it will help, just put all plans on hold for a few days and concentrate on each other, go to dinner, romantic walks, spend time together and remind yourselves why you wanted to get married in the first place. its easy for wedding stress to take over everything in your life so time out to be together away from all the plans can really be invaluable.

Answer 14

THE DAY AFTER YOUR WEDDING DAY WILL BE THE FIRST STRESS FREE DAY.ENJOY UR BIG DAY AS HOPEFULLY THIS WILL BE THE ONLY ONE YOU WILL HAVE

Answer 15

Awwwwwwwwwwwww I was married on September 14.  Congrats to you.  But to answer your question the stress didn't end for me until after the vows were said.

Answer 16

These stresses will only go away when the wedding and the reception has finished and there is nothing else you can do about it I`m afraid.  It happens and the key is not to let ot effect your home life...it is one day...and you will have the rest of your lives together.

It is normal to have these stresses, and we had them to a small extent when we were married 2 weeks ago.  The key is to try and not let this effect your relationship.  The bride makes as many of the littledecisionss as possible, eg the type of place cards, table linens etc and the groom helps with the choices for the main event eg the type of car.

My husband had the right idea really....left everything to me and when I felt I needed the input I asked his advice.  He kept telling me it was supposed to be my day and left it at that.  We argued only once about the entire wedding, and it was so small a thing that I can`t even remember what it was about.  The key is to listen to each others point of view and be prepared to compromise.

Good luck.  It really will get better and it will all be forgotten in a few weeks time.

Answer 17

when i got married i had lots and lots of stress, i had a breakdown at one point in front of my mum with tears and i thought my h2b was a money grabbing so and so

when my hen night was out the way  i started to relax i had my hen night two weeks before i got married

you will find the more relaxed you are the easier it will get.

xx

goodluck

Answer 18

When you wake up the morning of the wedding.  You'll wake up glad the planning is over.

Answer 19

Weddings can be extremely stressful, and in fact alot of companies involved in organising your wedding will try and make it even more stressful for you by suggesting that things like table plans, what flowers to have, etc. have to be completely perfect in order to not ruin your big day.

The best advice I can give is to not let the arrangements overrule your life - instead try and focus on what the wedding means for you and your partner. If you're able to relax about the arrangements a little and accept that everything doesn't have to be perfect you're likely to enjoy the day a lot more.

Answer 20

Hate to tell you, but it'll end about 3 months after the wedding when you have the pictures in, payments finalized, thank you notes sent, and your house organized with all of your gifts.

Hang in there though, it's worth it!

Good luck!