When will working with my ex ever be okay?

Question

A guy from my work and I went out for about 3 months. In that time together we got very close and our relationship was intense at times.Ultimately it ended because he couldnt commit. he said that sometimes he was so into it and sometimes he wasnt and he knew that upset me.

What upset me the most about the relationship was that he didnt want to commit to times/dates. He would say he would see me Saturday afternoon and then wouldnt call or would bow out which would p**s me off cause I dont want to wait around for someone.

I know its the best thing that we have broken up BUT we still work together and I really hurt everytime I see him and I still care about him heaps. He says he wants to try to be friends and again says he wants to hang out but always bails.

I have asked him about it and he says that he does not really understand how much it hurts me.

I know that he is not into me and all that but I need to work closely with him and i just want us to be friends, we dont need to hang out or anything just be able to talk at work but at the moment I feel like he is just so rude and it makes me so angry and it makes me feel bad about my self worth and thats just terrible

I know i cant change him but how will this ever work?

Answer 1

believe me it will never work.. u need ur space to get over the situation...  

Answer 2

This will never work.

Answer 3

Aw hun I know you're hurting, but just rise above it. treat him with the same hard aloof attitude, that he treats you with ( best way of fighting fire is with fire ! ).

This guy seems very immature, you have to be the adult especially at work. If he can not be civil to you, then simply ignore him.

Good Luck. X :-)

Answer 4

Never!

Answer 5

better change your job