When would a person show abusive personality?

Question

i left an abusive relationship. Just wonder who would be the next victim as he treated everyone nicely and acted very differently in front of me.

or, would he change? coz i gave him a great lesson.

Answer 1

HE will be nice, get comfortable then start acting like an abusive a*****e again

Thats the typical patern, they put up airs and caprice until they feel comfortable enough that they won't be judged by others and that the victem won't leave them and too often they are right about the victem not wanting to leave them for it

Answer 2

nah, people with personality disorders seldom change

what did you do to teach him?

Answer 3

If he is abusive once, he will continue being abusive to you. You can change him, I believe that, but only for other women. He will not change to you. He will always act like that to you.

Answer 4

Abuse sucks.  There have being so many douche bags that I cut of my life because they treated me terribly.  Some were people that I got really close to be for finding out how horrible they were.  I feel bad for anyone who has the misfortune of meeting these people.  The sad truth is the only thing about them that gets better is their ability to manipulate and deceive.  Abusive people usually suffer from a psychiatric disorders.  That monster they turn into is in their head, and they have to face that monster everyday of their lives, the abuse they put you through, usually isn't anything close the the abuse they put themselves through.  

A disturbing statistic is that over 80% of child molesters were themselves molested as children.   Abuse is contagious!  Punishing abusive people actually reinforces the behavior.  

The best thing you can do to stop it is to set a good example  Don't give them any second chances, let them know that you don't like they way you were treated, and that you can't allow your self to be in that situation... but otherwise be kind and generous.  About a year after I ended the most abusive relationship I was ever in, I came across so stuff that reminded my of the good times.  At first I wanted to burn it, and send a very long and very angry letter telling this guy precisely how I wanted him to die.  But I realized that would make him worse, and would make things worse for his next victim.  Instead, I sent him this stuff.  I said to be clear if I ever see you again I'm going to kick you in the balls, but I thought you should have this because I am not going to begrudge you the memory of the good times.

Answer 5

my guess is he will follow a similar pattern to what you went though.

No they rarely change.