When you adopt a child,?

Question

didn't you regret in deciding it?

Answer 1

I find distrubing that you would.

Why would you. When you decided to get pregnant would you regret it after?

Answer 2

I would never regret adopting a child. I will be giving them a home and an education.  I've always wanted to adopt because I think it's sad for all the kids who don't have parents growing up in foster care all their lives or in an orphange.

Answer 3

No not for one second.  Absolutely no regrets.

Answer 4

I have 2 children of my own, and in the process of adopting 3 siblings... all under the age of 4!!!  It's crazy I know, but it's well worth it to know you saved these children from being split up or continuing the life they were living.  You don't love them right away like you love your own flesh and blood, but in time you do.  

Regrets, no.  Maybe wonder what it would be if I didn't.  But what would it be like if I didn't?  What would my life be like?  What would their life be like?

I made the right decision.  Look into that child's eyes and say to yourself..."Could I give you back and live with myself?"

Answer 5

I've had some regrets.  We're in the process of adopting a sibling pair who are 12 and 14.  The 14 year old boy has reactive attachment disorder, conduct disorder, ADHD and is bipolar.  He has been very aggressive and spent 6 months in residential treatment because he was a danger to himself and others.  I love him and his sister, but sometimes I regret having brought 2 very needy kids into our home.  I feel that the rest of the family have suffered a lot and they didn't deserve it or ask for it.  We have 2 bio children who are 9 and 11 who have to deal with the rages and issues on a daily basis.

Other days I realize this has made all of us stronger and probably we'll be better people for it.  Would I do it again?  Maybe not.  Will I ever give them up or stop loving them, advocating for them and helping them?  NO.

Mary

If "that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger..." just call me Superwoman!

Answer 6

HECK NO!!!  I've never regretted it.

Answer 7

I have three children adopted from China.   The first was adopted as an infant.  The other two were adopted at older ages (4 and 10 at the time of adoption), and had special needs.  I have never regretted adopting any of my daughters for even one instant!   They are all smart, funny, affectionate, loyal and loving young ladies, and they make my life a joy every day.   Adopting them has been the best decision I ever made.  All three of them have said they want to adopt when they grow up, so I'm guessing they think it's a good thing, too!

Answer 8

Not even once in 28 years.

Answer 9

We haven't regretted adopting our daughter for a moment - it's been several years now.

Answer 10

sorry

its not fair

every one knows that

without child family is never complete

but always take some time for any dission

Answer 11

No, of course not!

ETA: OKay, two thumbs down for an adoptive parent saying that she has no regrets about choosing to adopt?  What would you say if an adoptive mom admitted she had regrets?

Sheesh!

Answer 12

I don't think their should be any doubt  because if you you in your heart that you want a child you go for it ,it shouldn't be any doubt because you might end up being a bad adopted mother

Answer 13

In there should never be a doubt. It is such a heartbreak not to be able to have children, adopted children are a gift of god.

Answer 14

Some days you're at wits end, then they smile at you or ask a funny question...life without them wouldn't be worth living!

Answer 15

Not for a moment, we can't imagine anyone caring about our children as we do....

Was it more than we expected? Yes, but that is how it works and my bio kids were more than expected too.....