When you fight with your mate...?

Question

do you say sorry even if you feel you're not in the wrong, and what do you do to make it up to them?

Answer 1

I've found that generally each person in a fight is sorry about something... even if not 'wrong' on a point, perhaps the tone of voice or choice of words used was not the kindest/nicest... which I would sincerely apologize for. Then I ask if we can talk about it calmly and/or simply kiss and make up... depending on the fight, the apology and reconciliation... To err is human; To forgive, divine...

My most recent fight was over my feeling taken for granted/ wanting to spend more time together since we'd been traveling separately. When he didn't even recall that I would be out of town the next week, I lost my cool... I snapped at him for not thinking of me, just of himself (we'd already talked twice about my trip).  I also said I don't feel like I have a boyfriend! He wanted a kiss and hug before dashing off to work (when I assumed we'd have the day together and I'd told him I didn't like his doing this before). I refused (I was hurt and pouting), but I called a few days later to apologize for my immature behavior. He called back while I was out of town, 'asking' testily on voicemail why I didn't call him back (he forgot again). He didn't apologize for walking out in the middle of our fight... And, he didn't recall I'd been away after I came home. We broke up. There were other petty issues related to his self-centeredness and 'cheap' character, but not being generous enough to forgive or apologize is a deal-breaker.  

My case in point... I apologized because I was wholeheartedly sorry for the way I communicated and I said I hoped we could talk, but he did not forgive me or acknowledge any part in our fight... It takes 2 to fight and 2 to make up.

Answer 2

YES, why not! Repeat again!

Answer 3

If that person is important to you, you have to be willing to say your sorry and make it better (even if you don't think your wrong). They will do the same thing if they are any kind of mate

Answer 4

Yes, but only if I have to.

I hate apologizing for something when I know I'm not wrong but it's the only way out of an argument/fight if they don't admit/realize their fault.

Answer 5

Just put your apology in a manner that, I'm sorry I"m fighting with you but I feel i"m right.

It sux to apologize when you know youre right hahha

Good Luck

Answer 6

I only apologize for what I did wrong. We leave the conversation with a better understanding of what each of us did wrong, and how we can avoid it in the future. No hard feelings. :)

Answer 7

I apologize first and try to keep to myself but my bf will always really to make ammend