When you give someone a thing as an act of charity?

Question

What do you make of someone who when they give a person something as being charitable then when the person doesn't do something for them, they demand back what they gave them?

Answer 1

charity is a gift.  a gift is something with no strings attached.  if there are strings attached it is not a gift.  i wouldn't think much of a person who did this, i have had it happen before.

Answer 2

Not much but that's human nature.

But on the other hand  I have given things in the past to people not out of charity but because I felt that they could or would use it like for instance carving tools for a gifted person and an Indian rug to a friend who had really worn out carpeting on their floor. The artist has put away the tools and forgotten about them and the really nice Indian rug will never be seen or appreciated by others cause it was used as insulation between two floors(maybe when they tear down the house or some new owner in the future will find it and wonder).

Kind of makes me wish I had never given them away.

So if you give a gift be proud of the fact you gave it out of love and have no expectations. Don't expect people to appreciate it or like or use it or even keep it.

Give it and put it out of your mind.

So people that give gifts or charity and want something are not really giving and to demand it back is kind of childih but maybe they really liked the thing and regretted giving it away in the first place and are using any excuse to get it back.

Or some people like to control people that way. They are very insecure and feel that the only way people will like them is to give them things. They are usually quite demanding and if people don't give in to their demands or don't give them what they feel they deserve they get hurt and insulted and want their things back.

Answer 3

That is not charitable giving. Charity has not expectations

Answer 4

a*****e??

Answer 5

that sounds like the person was not just giving to be charitable it sound like that person has some issues.  You don't give something to someone and expect to get something back if you are being charitable.  

Answer 6

I guess they weren't really charitable after all!

It all depends on any terms that were set-up when the giving was first done.

Answer 7

indian giving!

Answer 8

The act of giving is an act of selflessness.

What you described is manipulation and selfishness.

Understand, of course, that there are some who manipulate the selfless and take advantage of them.

Unfortunate, yes, but we really cannot trust blindly.