When you got pregnant did your husband treat you differently?

Question

We fight a lot since I got pregnant and he says I am "milking" a lot of things. I thought husbands were suppose to be supportive to their wives during pregnancy. anyone else have that problem?

Answer 1

no he did not treat me different. but we did argue more with my first i think most of that was me though because of my hormones i was sad, then mad then irritated then i did not want him to be around

Answer 2

YES! Mine was the same way at first. I am now 37 weeks and he helps with everything. Almost as if he is a different person.

Answer 3

well my fiance just threw himself into work each pregnancy. stopped talking to me and just well stopped alot of things each pregnancy ah h**l he could go ahead and cheat on me and i wouldnt even know thats how seperate our lives are hahahaha  

Answer 4

ME ME ME! I am 33 weeks and supposed to be on bedrest for a low lying placenta and high blood pressure and gestational diabeties but if I am not up and have breakfast wating for my husband by 7 a.m. then I get chewed out. He doesnt think that I need a nap during the day and he yells at me if all of the housework isnt done when he gets home from work.  He has really changed a lot since I have been pregnant. I have set up appointments 4 times now for us to talk to a counselor because I think that he is just scared about being a daddy but he always finds a reason why he cant make it. So you are definately not alone. The doctor told me that I should even be trying to sweep or bend over but he says that I am just being a big baby and that I am just trying to let things pile up so he will do it. He works 8 hours a day and then comes home and plants his fat a@@ on the couch and watches T.V.  Plus I have a  2 year old at home to run after all day but in his opinion I still dont have an excuse not to get everything done that needs to be done.

Answer 5

Hey,

Its overwhelming for him, having to deal with the stress and helping you out with your needs, now I know that like ovioulsy its harder on you, but your probly a stronger person who can cope with more... dont worry, it is fine ..this happens to everyone at a certain point, and eventually it will blow over...

Simple?

Answer 6

oh yes. they don't get it. they don't get what the big deal is, or why women make such a big thing out of it. My husband really gave me a hard time when my doctor recommended bedrest my last month of pregnancy. he told me I needed to do what I had to do. I told him to get bent. Now that we have our baby here, it's a different story. I think maybe guys appreciate mothers more than pregnant women because they can actually have concrete evidence of how much hard work is put in. They can't sympathize with swollen legs, exhaustion, weird cravings, back pain and all the unpleasant symptoms that go along with pregnancy. They just do not get it.  

Answer 7

Sorry you are going through this.  I am sure there is extra stess on him as well.  He is probably worried about how your lives will change and taking care of everything.  Have you tried talking to him.  Hopefully, he can talk it out with you and that will help some.  I hope so.  You don't need the added stress either.

Answer 8

Well I'm not pregnant and I never have been, but one time I heard my boyfriends sister and her boyfriend fighting, and he said that she kept blaming everything on being pregnant and using it as an excuse. He also said if he was a female he would be a "baby mill" so he could use the I'm pregnant excuse.

It's probably just that he doesnt know how to react to you since the hormones change alot, and give you mood swings. Like the part on Knocked Up when he was like "I know this isn't Allison talking, this is the hormones talking. Well I'd like to say your a crazy ****** hormones!!"

Answer 9

I had the same problem with my first child. It takes them a while to realize, I am going to be a dad and something in my girlfriend, or wife is living because of me and we r bringing a living thing into this world. Give him some time, spend more time with him and like do things with him like feel the baby, talk to it, buy things for it, talk about it with him and tell him your glad he is the dad.

Answer 10

I had to deal with the same thing.... and it only got worse. Some men lack the emotion to deal with anyone other than themselves, especially in a situation where they end up not being the center of attention.

It may take some effort on your part - talk to him and tell him your feelings. Open up more about the pregnancy and its effect on you - maybe that sharing could help him to understand more what you are going through and change his attitude a little.

Answer 11

my husband became more attentive and more affectionate.

sadly he has lost his s*x drive (just like me) so our marriage isn't as s**y as it was before we fell pregnant.

other then that things are lovely.

he sometimes forgets that i can't do some of the housework i'd normally do (things like working on ladders etc) and forgets that i need to take regular breaks from working now because i tire easily. but he is supportive.

i think what really helps him understand is i bought him a book on how to support your pregnant partner, and i bookmarked "baby center" on his computer.