When you had a baby did it just fit right in?

Question

Okay, so my husband and I feel ready for a baby. We own our home, and I love it here. He is in the military but he is getting out in less than two years. We wanted to get pregnant early next year. Which would be perfect because by the time the baby is born he will only have a few months left of the service. But, that right there is what I am nervous about. I am a planner. If I dont know where I will be or what I will be doing it freaks me out. Im nervous that after he gets out and we want to move it will be like starting all over, and probably having to move back into an apartment for awhile. I took my school a little slowly because of this also. So, when we get out of the service I will have about 6 months until my degree is finished. I didnt want to finish my degree here, get a great job, and have to move 3 months later. So, what I am saying is....are we stupid for wanting to start our family now?

The problem also is....if we decided to wait to have a baby we would have to wait..

Answer 1

First of all, RELAX!  So many people assume that having a baby will ruin your plans.  It's not like your whole world gets turned upside down.  Since you are a planner, you should know what to expect, and since you'd LIKE to have a baby it will be much easier on you.  Some people's lives are totally changed because they aren't prepared, and don't know what to expect.  You on the other hand could probably handle it, with a few hurdles along the way.  

There's no PERFECT time to have a baby.  When your husband and you are all settled and comfortable somewhere else, you will find another reason NOT to have a baby.  Honestly, there are always plenty of reasons not to have a baby because not many people are always financially comfortable, or comfortable where they live, or have a house, or whatever...  

My advice?  Just have one!  You can adjust accordingly.  Life will always be changing and you and your husband will always be growing, moving, having ups and downs.  Having a baby will just throw a little extra love, and joy into the mix.  Along with some poopy diapers... but hey that's what it's all about!

Answer 2

My husband's in the military too and it sucks because you're always left wondering if this is the house you'll be in for awhile or not. We've almost been living in this house for a year and that will be the longest we've been in a place. We had our baby boy 3 months ago and my husband has been promised 3 more years here. He still doesn't know if he'll re-enlist or not(he'll have been in 8 years by that time) so it makes it kind of sketchy for another baby.

I would say if a baby is something you both REALLY want then go for it. Your child isn't going to care where you live. If it's a "down grade" from where you're at now, who cares? As long as you're all happy that's what matters.

Answer 3

Ok, so I don't know anything about the military part of your situation. But My boyfriend and I found out we were pregnant a month after we started dating. (I knew him for 4 years before we actually started dating) I thought that a baby would be the end of the world for us, and that we would be basing our relationship on our child. But as the pregnancy progressed it felt more and more like the right thing to do. Once our baby boy arrived he fit right in and it just felt normal to have him around. Yes he fit right in and if you're ready for a baby you should go ahead and start trying.