When you have a kid what are they meant for?

Question

I have a mom that thinks that a kid should not have there own life but help her with her overdue bills,bevlie that kids suppose to help them from the begining..and only see them from working for them and giviing money to her...is that what having a kids meant for being a slave?

Answer 1

every parent has individual opinions and ways, but it has been done again and again over hundreds of years where parents "train" or "brainwash" children to feel obligation to provide for parents and help... right or wrong it was often only way anyone could provide for retirement and also used much in farming community... doesn't mean its bad or good and i give no opinion but you are not alone and has happened a lot in varying degrees

Answer 2

Sounds like your Mom needs some mental help.

Answer 3

no  how old are you  when you are under 18 and still in school you should help with the house work  when you are older and if you live at home you should pay rent  or move out and live on your own after you graduate  helping her with the bills is a one time deal  if she is in a pinch but it should be a loan then and not a steady occurance  i think you are young and still in school so you should help with chores around the house but if you earn some money it should be yours as long as you are still in school

Answer 4

your mother must not have really wanted you, that is the way it sounds. It sounds like she is taking all of her anger out on you. You didnt do anything to her. You did not ask her to bring you in this world. Do not pay her bills if it is at all possible. I know thats your mother but try to do as little u can for her. Remember this.. what she does to you.. will come back at her 10 fold. Its something called Karma. Its the way the world works. What goes around comes around. Just hang in there. When u turn 18 u can move out.

Answer 5

That is not what they're for at all. They're for you to LOVE!

Answer 6

no..your mom is loopy and obviously has something against kids. I feel that having kids is a joy in life and makes a family complete.

Answer 7

MOST parents dont have kids to help them with their freakin bills. you shouldn't be paying stuff off for your mom, unless your adult age and are helping her with bills because you live with her.

Answer 8

NO THAT IS NOT TRUE IT DEPENDS ON THE PARENTS ME MYSELF WANT MY CHILDREN TO LEARN TO BE INDEPENDENT AND BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR SELF WHEN THEY GET OLDER BUT NOT TO THINK OF THEM AS A SLAVE OR TO USE THEM IN ANY WAY. I LOVE MY CHILDREN AND YES THEY ARE GOING TO HELP ME IF THEY ARE LIVING IN MY HOUSE AFTER THEIR 18 TH BIRTHDAY

Answer 9

My mom was like that too, I had to work day and night, couldn't even go to school ( college ) becase she said if you want to go to college, get married and let your husband pay for it.  I worked and gave her money most of my young life and she didn't  let me go to college.

Answer 10

The child should be removed from that situation. I totally believe you should help your family in their time of need, but it shouldn't be a regularly occuring event.

Answer 11

I think that the more kids you have, the more chances that one of those kids is going to grow up and make it big in Hollywood.  Then who is paying the bills, huh?  Hollywood kid.

Answer 12

My mom says that a child's job is to be the best person they can be, and that the parent's job is to be their guide to help them with this. Yes, we're expected to help out a little, but that's a small sacrifice considering everything my parents have done for me.

I'm sorry that this is not the case for you, and I hope that if you ever have children, you use this experience to make your children's lives better than yours was.

Answer 13

Yep, that is right.  Slave labour.

You have issues.