When you have a man...?

Question

...who when it comes down to it, is self absorbed, thoughtless, lacks common sense and opinionated, argumentative and unsupportive and doesnt ever grow up or seems to have an aversion to age...how do you deal with it? walk away?

ive about reached my breaking point...ive done communication, he just turns the convo around to him and his needs and what he thinks and what his opinion is of what should be, etc...

he spends the day playing xbox and wonders why i get pissed off...he has done nice things, he is good for romantic gestures once in a blue moon, he can be very sweet, but its getting really hard to overlook the general character...i mean a guy who is nice and sweet but fails miserably when it counts, is that really a guy u should hold onto?

Answer 1

It sounds like you have jumped from the frying pan into the fire. You jumped from one idiot to another one. You already have children of your own, why are you now living with one extra one that should have his butt out there working and helping and being a partner. You need to grow up and get rid of that extra child. The nice things he does do, do NOT make up for the everyday garbage.

Answer 2

honey, you don't have a man, you have a boy on your hands

Answer 3

If you're having doubts about this guy...well maybe there's a reason.  It's always said that a woman's intuition should be trusted...maybe you should trust yours.

If it were me -- and maybe because I'm older, more mature, and don't put up with S**t like that -- I'd have gotten rid of that jerk a LOOONNNNGGGG time ago.  But that's just me.

Sorry to say it, but if you're asking what you should do, I vote for breaking your foot off in his @$$.  Kick his worthless hide to the curb.  

Answer 4

LMAO at Mickey!

Hahahahahahaha!!!

To answer the question, this doesn't sound like the dude for you- or for anyone, for that matter!

Answer 5

there is no way in h**l I could stay with someone like that.  Especially when he can't be there to support you.  I don't think you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with this man, unless you're into pain and misery.

Answer 6

What exactly are you still with him for?  No, I would not stay with a man like that.  Why waste my time.  I can be mad and sad all by myself.  You are not setting an example for your kids.  Dont put up with nonsense like that.  They need to know that normal loving couples do not act like that.  

Answer 7

leaving him might actually wake him up.  and if it doesnt there are a ton of others out there.

Answer 8

it's you Charli...  stop trying to change the man......

Answer 9

You can do better.

Answer 10

Know what?

Sounds like you've dumped one big jerkoff and replaced him with another.

Get rid of this loser or you'll find yourself (or maybe you already have) in the same boat you were with hubby #1.

Answer 11

if i were u i'd tell him where he could shove it

Answer 12

sure

Answer 13

and you need a man like this.. WHY??? no, honey. call it quits. hes self absorbed and selfish. move on, you deserve better