When you invite freinds and family over...

Question

Rather it be for dinner, to watch a game, a BBQ or a celebration do you expect anything from them?

On more than one occasion we have been invited to my mother in laws and been told to bring our food and drink, when we show up nobody else was expected to bring anything. Her new husband is an *** hole who has never exepted our side of the family and his family never would be asked to do such a thing.

Im just wondering that when you invite someone over what do you feel you are obligated to and what do you feel your guest are obligated to when you invite them to your house? Personally if I invite someone rather I have the money or not I make sure I have everything, when you invite someone you are obligated to have everything there not depend on others unless it is that specific type of get together Bring your own dish kinda potluck?

Answer 1

Don't go for awhile, if you do don't bring anything, if they mention anything say something like, no one else did, why just us???

Answer 2

If no one else is expected to bring anything ever, I would just stop going. Or show up without anything and see how they react.

Sometimes family is weird. You just have to decide if you want to be singled out or not.

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Answer 3

Usually they'll bring like a bottle of wine over. Or mabey like a desert, but rarely a present. or any thing like that. and it depends on the occasion.. they wont bring wine to a bbq. mabey to a formal dinner at your house but they would bring like a dessert to a BBQ.

Answer 4

This is not uncommon.  And don't worry about what others bring.  Just look at it as you got a free meal and you are simply contributing any way you can.  That's a better thing to say then the slouches who brought nothing.

When I have a little get together someone usually calls to ask what they can bring.  Sometimes I'll say 'Can you bring dessert?' (If there is a small gathering).  Otherwise, I just tell people that if they like a certain booze, to bring it.  

  

Answer 5

I agree that when you invite people over, you inviteded them, so you should be providing them with things. It's like asking someone out on a date and then making them pay UH-HU! They asked you! I get for something like thanks giving or my momma has get togethers after work on Fridays instead of going out to some resturaunt or bar and paying a lot of money for things. She just askes the people to bring their own drinks, but when she has a party, like a REAL party she doens't have any one bring anything. We take care of that because it's our party! I guess to watch a game maybe being asked to bring a bag of chips or something to drink wouldn't be too bad but other than that, I really think the people who invited you over should be providing the stuff.

Oh hey, I'm having a party, you wanna bring the balloons? I asked Nikki to bring the chips and I asked Billy to bake and bring MY cake!

NO!!!