When you just keeping helping and supporting someone and u never get a good confess from him don't u stop??

Question

I mean when u don't get a engouragement from his side don't u go down and decide to not be with him anymore?

it's as a pupil who stops working hard on his studies when his teacher never engourage him...

So what do u think about that?

Answer 1

I know that a normal person w/o strong feelings for that someone would have the mind to leave, but for those w/ strong feelings, they just keep recalling the good times of the past w/ that person. This makes it hard for someone to let go because they keep thinking that the person will change. What you say makes sense, but it really varies with each situation. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

With no encouragement, yes you do stop, unless you're crazy foolish!

Answer 3

Your spelling has me thrown off.  I don't know exactly where you're coming from, but if you're the student and you're not getting encouragement...............Let's see, I think we can talk about this for a minute.  Encouragement comes when a person is truly making an effort to help themselves in any area of life, especially studies.  There are counselors available to help you when things get tough and you need a boost.  Never ever be afraid to ask for help.  That's why there are so many counselors in this world.  There are millions of people with needs for help.  Millions who need encouragement.

If, you're the one doing all the helping.  Why not say to him, as I just said above.  "There are counselors for this.  I'm all out of answers for you and I really will help you find the right person to help you".  A good friend nor a good teacher never becomes an enabler for someone to become lazier. You want to always encourage them to help themselves.  yes, even your own children should help themselves.  You shouldn't be cleaning up behind them.  They'll never become productive adults, as long as someone else does it for them.  As for anyone ever telling you thank you.  Yes, one day they will.  If you encourage their growth to become productive and not allow them to use you.  Thank yous, plus praise will come.

Blessings to you......<><):

Answer 4

If you were talking about a personal relationship I would say about 3 months of no respect or positive feedback is time to cut the ties but if he/she is your pupil I'd give them a lot of time. Just because you don't see the advancement doesn't mean others don't.

Answer 5

I find that most deeds go unnoticed and unappreciated and most of the time I do so just because that is how things get done.  I babysit for my daughter and get a household right out of the trash dump.  I just clean it up because that is what I do and I like myself for being this way.  I worked in a nuthouse where no-one took care of the kitchen area.  I called out to God to do something and the message I got back was "You got two arms and two legs and a good heart, if you want something done about it do it yourself".  You do things for others mostly for yourself so when they fail to respond to your good efforts you still have yourself to pat on the back.  It is like picking up some trash that isnt yours on the side of the highway, dont expect thanks for it, just do it.  We all benefit even if we all dont know how to say thanks.

Answer 6

are you saying that you are waiting for some kind of fullfillment from the person you are helping??  Like a simple thank you or something...  if this is the case...

YOU NEED TO STOP HELPING PEOPLE!!!!

I will say this plain and simple... helping someone should be a SELFLESS act... no thanks are needed here...  are you going to stop feeding the hungry because they didn't say thank you?  are you not going to help someone dying because they didn't smile when you offered to help?