When you love someone so much and you can't be part of their life how do you cope with it?

Question

When you adore someone so deeply and you can't speak to them or be near to them out of respect to them and you ...

Is it possible to forget?

No. It isn't.

How have you dealt with not being able to have contact with someone you love deeply?

My situation is that I love someone very deeply and he is in a long term relationship so we backed away from each other sooner rather than later to save everyone involved.

We can't be friends. We'll never see each other again.

What do we do? How do you cope?

Is there any point in trying to forget? Trying to forget makes it almost impossible to forget. It gets worse.

Answer 1

You can't forget but you just have to learn to accept.

I loved a man for many years........he was married when we met, but later divorced. Not because of me. He later married a colleague of mine. I was gutted as I had loved him for more than ten years. Thing is, I never expressed that love........so, I was gutted but had to get over it. I will never forget but I had to accept and move on with my life, which I managed to do.

Answer 2

If you love someone and they break your heart, don't give up on love. Have faith--restart.

:D

good luck :)

Answer 3

Time is the only answer to this question.  The rest is just trying to make the space between now and the later a little better.  

One thing that is comforting is to remember any nice moments you shared, and be thankful for them.  I tend to forget that some people have never gotten to feel that kind of love for someone and many would envy that feeling.  So cherish and enjoy the pain, it's shows that you're still alive.  It will get worse, but then it will get better.

Answer 4

i see it as, if its meant then he will come back. If you love him as much as you say you do, you will be happy for him. No matter what.

Has he tried to get ahold of you? Has he gotten over you? Is he happy with his current relationship? my Q to you is why isnt he with you???

Its not that hard to try to forget someone, if you give it your all, if you pick up  a new hobby or hang out with friends, try to meet someone new. Then there you go, your mind is somewhere else,and not always on him.

You can do it, if you dont have any way of contacting him, thats better for you, before you know it you wont even remember his name!

Hope i could help :)

Answer 5

You have to get involve in a couple of things. Take the classes you always wanted to or the sport... Something in order not to have time to think while it heals and the feeling is smoother.

Answer 6

I remember the pain that it would cause others.

When I find my self thinking about that person, I busy my self doing something else.  I find someone to talk to (not about him) I listen to others and their problems or whatever. Cleaning helps a lot. Scrub those cupboards out, clean out the closets.  Cleaning is symbolic.  

I had this situation and I knew that it wasn't worth the pain and I do like being able to look at my self in the mirror. I have had no regrets in my decision to walk away.

Answer 7

No, you can't forget, but you CAN move on with your life. There are a lot of people out there...