When you love someone when do you give up trying?

Question

I'm in a difficult relationship. Both myself and my partner love eachother, but everyday is a battle. Advice?

Answer 1

try and have a break for a week  

Answer 2

Relationships are constant battles. As long as you resolve your issues & don't let them build up & hold grudges, then you stand a chance. Love is a state of mind, being in love is unconditional & worth the battles.

Answer 3

well, sometimes, love is not enough right ? sometimes you have to stop when too much pain is caused and when too many people are affected just because of this certain relationship. you give up trying when you can no longer hold the pain, and when your heart is already tired. you'll definitely know the right time, but i advise you to hold on as long as you can ! :) goodluck !

Answer 4

I know exactly what you mean and I can empathise with you on this one. For years my partner used to say 'We cannot live with each other and yet we can't live without each other either'. This is so true.

However, crunch time came when I took depression after a back operation went wrong. It put everything into perspective and little niggles became insignificant.

We have worked very hard over the intervening years to try and understand each other and to have respect for each others points of view and listen to that point of view without prejudice. The problem was that my partner has a very quick temper and if you don't do it his way then you don't do it at all. And me being a Libra I see justice for all at any cost and so life was just a constant battle.

However, we are winning by talking things through instead of a constant battle. We are both strong minded people and feircly independant too which is not always a good combination.

If you were to ask me for advice the one thing I would say is to employ a sense of humour and laugh at things in adversity and at things you would otherwise had taken seriously.

Honestly it helped us when we lightened up and gave each other breathing space to enjoy our own pursuits.

I wish you all the best and I hope that things will get better for you both. Who ever said it was easy was telling fibs.

Answer 5

You could both could go to counseling and try to work on what makes it so hard to have a relationship together. I personally think that you shouldn't have to work that hard on a relationship, especially if you are not married. You should just be able to jive with each other for the most part. There are times,in a long standing relationship,were you have to get in there and do battle,to keep it going,but those times should be few and far between. There are so many wonderful men out there,why not take some time and try to find the right one.

Answer 6

You love each other, so that's most of the battle won! What are you arguing/battling about? Neither of you is unfaithful to the other. Is it a monetary or a commitment issue? Or is it that you think he isn't doing enough housework/chores? Why not set aside an hour in the evening over a glass of wine and discuss it rationally. Tell him you love him, but you feel that everyday is a battle. See what happens.  

Answer 7

Love... U do whatevere u can to see ur partner happy... Imagine u breaking up with him... be calm.. and if u see him happy... may be its time to let go...

No one "gives up" in love... its not possible... any decision u take will be for ur lover's betterment...

Answer 8

Go together to Relate.

Answer 9

you both think cos u have eachother u dont have to put effort in,not true,in arelationship,both of u have to try and put effort in,thats what happend to me and my ex,i was doing ll the work and i just got sick of it