When you see an old friend that you haven't seen in Years, and they see that you've had a baby .. ?

Question

Are they surprised that you've had a baby (because you just weren't the 'type') or are they not surprised at all (because you're the kinda person that they knew would be having a baby soon!)?

When I see friends from the past (that I haven't seen in years) they are always SO surprised to see that I'm a Mommy!

How do your friends from the past react when they see that you've had a baby?

Answer 1

They are usually quite shocked that I'm a mom. I guess I wasn't the type of person they thought would have a family. Or, maybe they're just surprised that I didn't have kids sooner, like mostly everyone else I went to school with.  

Answer 2

I don't think they are surprised that you are become mommy, I think they are surprised you are mommy because I would be surprised if my old friends have kids which years go fast and time go fast, like wow all my friends are adult now, married, have kids, and would be very happy for them, it's almost like family or friend reunion they shocked you have kids cause you are grown out now, not kids anymore.

Answer 3

I don't think they're surprised I'm a Mommy, just that I'm a Mommy NOW. My husband and I are 23 and most of our friends aren't parents, let alone married. We were always the "firsts" with everything.

Answer 4

Well, I have had 3, and most of my friends from the past don't even have 1 yet.. I think they are more shocked by all of the weight that I have put on while having those 3 children.. :(

Answer 5

They are not surprised at all.  I got married at eighteen, so I think people expected me to be pregnant sooner than twenty one.  To be honest a lot of my "friends" talked about me when I got married.  Their parents did also.....I think they thought I'd get married, have tons of babies, not graduate college, and just be an all around loser.  At twenty two most of my friends are just now getting married.  And guess what, I had Emma my senior year of college and still managed to complete an internship and graduate with honors!

Answer 6

Your question makes me sad.  I had many friends that were a huge part of my life for a very long time and we drifted apart, none of them knew I was pregnant, they would all be shocked, and happy for me.  All of them would always tell me I would be a great mom one day.  Now my son is 14 months old and none of them even know I have a child.  How weird it would be to run into one of them some day and introduce my son to them.  

Answer 7

No I don't get that surprised look because I had a baby, even though if they knew me would know that babies were never in my plans.

They are surprised that I had two babies (twins).

Answer 8

surprised--

so i am i--

i wasn't thinking about having kids for another 5 yrs min.--

but i love my baby girl so much-- i am not concerned what they think or say.

Answer 9

Most of them think I'm joking. She's so dark complected where as I'm very fair, they all say, "No, that's not your baby, is it? Really?"

They aren't surprised I'm a mommy though, I felt like I had to mother all my friends my whole life anyways, not in a bossy way, just lovingly. My nickname was "mama" when I was younger, so go figure?

Answer 10

They are very happy for me...I have wanted to be a mom for a long time and finally at 32 I am a mommy.

Answer 11

dont worry about them honey, if they were your "real friends" then they wouldnt be JUST finding out now...dont sweat the small stuff

Answer 12

I'm exactly like Noah's Mommy.  I was always the "motherly" person in high school, so everyone knew I'd be a great Mommy someday.  I just think they'd be surprised that not only am I already a Mommy, but I'm a mother of THREE!.  Complete strangers at the grocery store are "amazed" that I have three toddlers.  Its kinda funny actually.  All of my old friends from high school though are nowhere near the point in their lives that they'd consider having children.  Either they are still in the dating scene or just newlyweds.  The ones that I still talk to constantly tell me that they can't imagine having three toddlers at 25.  It use to bug me that they'd say that, but now I take it as a compliment.  

Answer 13

people probably arnt surprised with me because I have been with my husband for so long I was with him in highschool so when I see people from school they probably knew it was going to happen sooner or later! I love seeing those old friends though, just to show my little cutie off!!

Answer 14

My friends were surprised when they knew I was pregnant because they knew I always wanted to wait until after I finished college.  i think they're more shocked I'm going back this fall even though I'm due in October.

Answer 15

mine are the same, i didn't really have boyfriends at school, i did out, but not any they knew, so i guess they think i wouldn't of had kids, but if they really knew me they would of known i would of had kids someday.

Answer 16

I recently got in contact with high schools friends after 10 years and I know they can't believe it.  Sometimes I can't even believe it!  If I knew how much I would love being a mommy I would never have waited so long.

Answer 17

They usually give me a 'i'm so sorry' look. I think they do that because i'm young, but then i tell them how wonderful motherhood is, & how happy i am with my son & my husband.

They are very surprised too, especially the ones i was really close to. I thought having a baby ruined your life. Boy, was i wrong.

Answer 18

they are not shocked at all

i have always been 'kid friendly' and babysat through all of high school. my friend has 2 daughters, my 'neices', and alot of people in town think they are my kids. I used to have them all the time and people think they look alot like me...