When you were, or will be, in labor?

Question

hello. just out of curiousity, weather you are previously experienced, or have a labor coming, did or do you want family around the hospital, or did/will you wait to call them at a certain time like after baby was born, and also, did you want to or do you want to let people hold your baby? just curoius how others feel abou the situation. lol. blessings and thanks

LOL. i am 34 weeks almost. i just DO NOT want people looming outside waiting for me to deliver. it would drive me up a wall. mainly cause it is my dh parents and family. my mom wont be able to come. and also, i dont want them to hold the baby. i love my MIL, but she realy tends to drive me up a wall. she is very um.....airheaded about things i guess, and you have to repeat everything 20 times. (and she is VERY loud) actualy both her daughters wouldnt let her in for the births of their last babies either. LOL. but i realy honestly dont want anyone to come and be "waiting" outside for the baby. i guess i want to be complete

Answer 1

Having a baby is an Awsome experience! Not just for you but for your entire family!!! You have the option of not letting anyone be there but why!!! Show off your baby after the 2 days in the hospital you can have a week or soo to your self if you want it! The only people I called were my parents and they called everyone else. I just told everyone that I only wanted people there for about 5 hours then made everyone go home. Before I went into labor I had only wanted my hubby in the room with me but when I got to the hospital I had my mom come in aswell because she has been thrugh it before and knew exactly how to keep me calm! Ill tell you a trick to tell your hubby! When your in labor have him watch the screen and when you get a contraction have him calmly tell you when its at its peak and when it starts to go away! It helped me to know that the contractin wasnt going to last forever!!! GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

i gave birth 3 wks ago and

i made it quite clear several wks prior that i did not want family hanging around. i only have the in laws living here but that was enough,

i was scheduled to be induced on a Thursday now my mother-in-law knew this and we told her we would ring after the birth,  to my sup rise she drove past my House didn't see a car (obviously) then drove straight up to the hospital and just walked into MY LABOUR ROOM !!  needless to say i was very pissed off at her and i let her know it to,  my partner never said boo to her and he knew just who p**s off i was by looking at me.  so at that point i wanted him to leave the room as well.. after it was all over ( 2days later) i told my hubby to go and ring the family (my parents first as i said i would ) then his,  he left the room then came back about 40 minutes later and i said you know what did mum and dad say..  he said "OH I DIDNT RING THEM"    so that set me off again, i was to exhausted to yell at him at the time but i have been making up for it ever since,  also i just seem to settle my daughter and his mother will come around - walk straight in and pick her up -waking her of course - so i would STAND YOUR GROUND it's your labour dont let people reck it for you.

next time im not having anybody in with me - that includes my selfish husband.

if im still with him that is

Answer 3

I was the same way, I just wanted to be left alone,,,,but I don't even remember my sister taking all those pictures, my mother-in-law telling me to puff, puff, puff, breatheeeee....during the 27 hour hours of labor, I just didn't even care if the Dallas Cowboys came in and did field practice over my bed. I do remember yelling at someone to get out of my face (my sister said I used words I NEVER use in real life) and after I tore during the delivery I yelled at the doctor to stop "embroidering her initials" down there and get done already!  You pretty much turn into a different person during labor

Answer 4

When I had my twins, my mom was just in the delivery room with me, and then outside was my dad, and my two sisters. At first I did not let them hold them, but they were in the NICU.  

Then with this baby, I am 13 weeks, the dad is going to be in the delivery room.  And my daughters, my parents, and maybe my sisters are the only ones I want there. And I will let them hold the baby.

Answer 5

I was the same way, I did not want anyone else in the hospital with me besides my husband.  First of all, labour is painful and it makes you cranky and stressed, I don't want people around me during this time.  After labour, you are exhausted and really you just want to rest and sleep.  My mother came to visit me the next day in hospital for an hour, I was ok with that as I was feeling much better by then.  I didn't mind her holding the baby for a little while, but it was my second.  I wouldn't want a bunch of people fighting to hold him all day just hours after he was born.  The baby pretty much just sleeps all the time at first anyway.  Just tell her you will call her after you have the baby.  Don't tell her when you are in labour, and wait until you feel better before you call her.  If she comes to see you while you are in hospital, after an hour or so, just tell her you are really tired and need some sleep.

Answer 6

It was my husband and I the whole time, then the next day my family came (he only had a dad who lives in FL).  I did not want people outside my room either, or peaking in (my gma would so do that) to see how things were going, as Im laying there.

Answer 7

I personally did not feel that way at first.  I enjoyed having everyone there to celebrate.  Just because they are there does not mean that they have to hold the baby.  After I came home, now that's when I wanted to be alone.  At the hospital, who cares, they aren't in your house making a mess lol!

Answer 8

I completely understand how you feel.  My husband and I knew from the beginning that we wanted our baby's arrival to be a private event (no lingering guests, excessive phone calls, etc.)  We actually waited until after our daughter was born and she was in the nursery for us to call our families and announce the news.  (It also helps that they live in different states and not down the road from us.)  

This allowed me to concentrate on the birthing/laboring process and not have 50 people wondering how I'm doing, when the baby is going to arrive, etc.  It also allowed my daughter and I to get acquainted with each other, start nursing, etc before she went to get cleaned up and under the warmer.  

Infact, my husband and I didn't have any guest for the first couple of weeks after our daughter's birth, per our request.  My parents came two weeks after she was born for a long weekend and then hubby's parents came the following weekend.

Answer 9

My first delivery - I really didn't know any better.  I was so excited when I realized i was in labor and of course called everyone.  Sooooo many people came.  they were in and out of my room throughout my labor, I was so annoyed.  And they all came in like a second after my son was born - again annoying.

My second delivery - Our plan was to not call anyone until after the baby was born.  When I told my mom this, I think it hurt her feelings at first, but later she understood.  But, labor came and it was sooooo quick we didn't even have time to call anyone even if we wanted to.

If/when I have another - Same plan, we wont call anyone until after the delivery.

Answer 10

The hospital should ask you for visiting preferences when you go. My parents stayed home so it was just the three of us at the hospital, me, husband and baby. I can understand how you feel, having the baby is stressful enough you don't need anyone there that's going to drive you nuts. :)

Answer 11

I had my parents there and my older son was at the hospital when the two little ones were born (but not in the room), but that was my choice.  If you are not comfortable then you need to not make the call till you have the baby and then have sometime alone.  You can call after the baby comes - have your hubby call and let you MIL know that you are not feeling up to company and to please wait till the next day....as for letting her hold the baby, you just can't take that away from a grandma LOL - but I understand you need time so make sure you and hubby get that time.

Congrats and remember do this your way - you only get have your first baby once ;)

Answer 12

When I was in labor the Queen of England, and brad Pitt could have been waiting outside and I would not have cared..as a matter of fact Publishers clearing house could  have stood at the foot of the bed with a million dollar check and it would not have bothered me. But hey you are in control and if it makes the situation better for you tell them you dont want them at the hospital.

Answer 13

Just tell the nurses that you don't want any visitors until... (the baby is cleaned up and you have had bonding time). Because of baby's being kidnapped, most every hospital has the family waiting room outside the maternity ward, so eager family members can't just push their way in.

My parents live out of state so I let them know when my water broke. It was a 8 hour drive for them. My MIL works at the hospital so she came to visit me during labor. During delivery no one was allowed in. My dad got to the hospital about 30 min before my daughter was born, my mom got there about an hour after she was born... but no one came to meet her until after she was cleaned up and I felt like visitors. I am sure it was killing them to wait in the waiting room, but too bad for them.

Answer 14

I am gathering it is your first baby!! I was exactly the same with my first, My parents lived states away , and my hubby's parents lived lcoal, i knew that i couldnt have my parents meet there grandchild straight away, so why should my hubby's. It was really hard, my hubby and MIL where really put off and angry at me, but it was my labor my pain, so LEAVE ME ALONE lol, I really didnt care if i came across as nasty It was a time that me and my hubby were creating our own family, and that is what was importatnt just him & the doctors etc.

I would tell them that you dont know how your labor will go, and you really feel as tho it is a time jsut for you and your hubby, insure them that they will be phoned when bub is here, and they have a whole lifetime to get to know there granchild, you only have these very new moments to bond with your child, and your child will allways need it mummy & daddy,

Stick to your decision, Tell her, dont tell her to back off like I did to my MIL, opps my bad.

Good luc with it, and hope it all goes well, I could tell you heaps more about my MIL and when my baby came home from hospital, YAYYYYY the joys.

Answer 15

well, my first labor, i had my whole family come(dad, step mom, and 7 little sisters from ages 14-6) it was hectic and i hated it. we decided that for this birth, when i go into labor we will call my family, but only ask that my 17 year old sister comes to stay in the waiting room with our son. after the baby is born, then i will call the rest of my family/friends to come.