When your 14-year-old brother tells you that he feels worthless!

Question

when your 14-year-old brother tells you that he feels worthless and boys in school

tease him cause he cried a few times in front of the class when his STUPID TEACHER

insulted him (my brother) for no reason! and when he tells you that he thinks he

is not good looking ( while he is SUPER HANDSOME)…when he tells you that

he feels that no body loves him and he thinks that people are nice to him cause

they pity him!!!! he feels like he's a burden!

what would you do to make him feel better?!! this is the 1st time he

told me about what he is going through!

i dunno how to react! i want him to trust me and tells me about anything

that bothers him…cause i wanna help him and make him feel special! i want him to be more confident…

p.s. my brother looks different…people in my country are dark skinned and black haired while my brother is

white skinned and blonde haired…

so he feels like his is being rejected! i suppose!

Answer 1

you are cool for wanting to help your bro.

how old are you?

-hang out with him/spend time together/do things with him.  spending time with people who have a positive view of him will help him see himself that way too.  

-if you get good answers here, show him this post so he can see not everyone thinks the same as his classmates and teacher.

-let him know that there is a world outside of and life after highschool (and/or middle school if that's the grade he's in).

-tell him that usually when people insult other people, it's because they feel bad about themselves, and making other people feel bad makes them think they feel better...

Answer 2

get him a girlfriend. (:

he sounds like a cool kid.....

blond and white skinned is pretty hot.

and crying shows he's sensitive...which makes him more attractive to girls.

idk, but explain to him he's not anything he seems to think of himself.

i hope he feels better.<3

Answer 3

Hi There,

Actually, stuffs like this happens alot. I myself had gone through this before. I am an Indonesian studying in Singapore. At that time the teachers there doensn't really appreciate me and all the other classmates and schoolmates always insulted me as stupid indonesian and that I could not study, and a waste of my parents good money and any sorts of stuff that you can imagine. But somehow, I have this will to prove myself to them, cause my sister was not much help either. Proving to them that I can be better than them academically and everything else. and you know what, it worked. So what I am saying that your best advice to your brother is that just close down his ears and just go on. Don't mind what the others' think just be oneself and everything will change its course. Human are not all cruel.

Answer 4

tell him it is not possible for him to be any thing but wonderful because you are wonderful and you love him tell him you do not like it when he puts down people you love which is him then spend time with him and help him to be confident by always letting him your family and friends know you think he is the best thing since sliced bread oh yeah let him know it is men who cannot cry who are not normal

Answer 5

Well you obviously seem to care about your brother. How about just listening to him and telling him how you feel in return? There's nothing wrong with crying, guy or girl, no matter what age you are. Maybe there's a social stigma about it but people who tease someone for being upset clearly don't have a high emotional IQ and are probably immature.

Is he in any sports teams? It's a good way of socializing. It seems that he's really suffering from low self esteem. It's okay to look different. I'm of the opinion that in many countries having light skin and hair is something to be aspired to rather than reviled. (Skin lightening creams, bleaching and hair dye haven't lost their popularity over the years as far as I know.) Spending time together and reassuring him about his good points might help.