When your girlfriend questions your apology!?

Question

My girlfriend is on holiday with her friends for a couple of weeks and she said she was going to call on a certain day a couple of days into her holiday. As I hadn't heard from her during that day I text her saying I missed her the night previous asking how she was getting on. When she text back asking me if I still wanted her to ring I said I really wanted to talk but I was now with friends could she call the following day. We had a big argument ending with me apologizing for questioning whether I cared and she dismissed my apology which really hurt. I've never done this before. Do you think there's more to this? She text me when drunk later in the week saying she loved me so much it made her insecure. She is still away and now not so enthusiastic when we get in touch with each other. Girls help please, whats going on here?!I never know how much attention/space to give her, I love her to bits and the relationship but things have got so intense!(ps she has been cheated on in the past) Thoughts please

Answer 1

i think.....

tat cos she has been cheated on the past it has it affects, and she wil be insecure, cos it would have hurt her, uv got to reassure her you will never cheat on her ad build up her trust :)

i think she does love you, just finds it hard to trust

good luck

Answer 2

You pressed her insecurity button by telling her that you missed her wanting to talk but .....  not enough to make excuses from your friends for a few minutes of privacy to talk to her!  That's a woman's point of view.  

We tend to follow through with things a little more often than men.

Applogies isn't always enough, unfortunately!  Showing her that you understand why she got upset (not just bringing up how she had been cheated on in the past - that's like rubbing salt in the wound).  If she can see that you understand what upset her & know that you really love her & care about her, then she will conclude that you are now much less likely to 'hurt' (or trigger the hurt - it is the same thing, she got hurt) her again.

To her, you are not showing her that you really miss her as much as she misses you!

I think she is telling you the truth that she loves you so much that it made her insecure.  Is that so hard to understand?

It's a bit lost in translation!  Text is not a very good mean to keep things accurate in terms ofcommunications, really.

I understand that it hurts you to have your appology dismissed.  May be you can help her understand that. Most of all though I hope you understand that you need to show her more frequently that she comes before your friends and how much you care.

To solve her confusion, keep it all aligned.  If you tell her you really miss her and want to talk to her, then call her (leave a short & sweet message like 'I really miss you.  Hope you are having a good time'  ; if you don't get her) .  2nd to that is to ask her to call you (as it would be cheaper and show YOU that she misses you, right?) but do talk to her whenever she calls!  Show her that you miss her so much that you can't wait another minute longer, let alone the next day !  How long were you planning to stay with your friends?

A bit harsh, sorry.  But you asked....  so I hope this help you to understand each other better.