When your partner hates you...?

Question

My gf and I broke up over something that apparently seems trivial to her and her "friends". She has been telling them intimiate things my personal life for over two years now. Anything that happened to me, like losing my job, or being in foster care when I was young, (and other private things, like losing my car, which is so humiliating) they know about. Even IM sessions have been saved and forwarded via email!! It's so shocking that I actually hurled. I couldn't believe that the one person I wanted to marry was going behind my back to everyone and anyone who would listen. I even work with some of them! I think she actually hated me deep inside.

Was she trying to destroy my life?

Answer 1

Who dumped who? Or was it mutual?

Answer 2

I'm sorry you went through that. The truth is, she was probably just insecure about herself, and bullied you to feel better. I'd feel sorry for her, too. She'll never be in a good relationship.

Answer 3

Debra, first of all you know you're better off without her. For some reason she feels the empowerment to exploit you and your life's history. I'm not sure what she thinks she's going to gain by dogging you. Sounds to me like she has an axe to grind. At least its over...now what? Do not contact her, you know that will get misconstrued. Just keep away from her eventually she'll run out of steam. Maintain altitude- I'm sure it's a tough time for you.

Answer 4

No she's just a miserable *****.

Good riddance to her and her "friends."

Find new friends/mate.

Answer 5

Her behavior is all about her, and not about you — but she is spiteful to the extreme and likely mentally ill.

Her treatment of you is offensive *in the extreme*.

STAY AWAY FROM THAT WOMAN — to the point of having *no* contact with her.  Anything you say or do WILL be used against you.  

Answer 6

How disrespectful of her I'm glad you kicked her to the curb she violated your privacy

Answer 7

It's possible her motives were malicious.

More likely, she simply had no respect for your privacy and was oblivious to how insensitive she was.

Either way, you're better off now.

Answer 8

OMG, that is horrible - but we all learn from experience, break-ups can get pretty ugly.

Look at it this way - best you find out now what kind of person she really is, than to waste any more time in relationship with her.  Don't retaliate or try to "get even".  Believe me - her actions say way more about her than they do about you.  Very few people will trust her any more after this.