When your twin sister dies.....what do you do...........?

Question

My twin sister Madeleine (Maddie) has passed away a few hours ago. She was bulimic and refused to get better. I don't know what to do. I'm lost, like in a daze.... like cruel dream that i won't ever wake up from. Can someone please tell me whats wrong. I haven't cried yet. I'm just like a zombie. Like i'm in a trance. I'm scared. My chest feels heavy and i feel like I'm gonna puke. I need to no if this is normal....i've never lost anyone close before. Help Please x x x

Answer 1

what you're experiencing is completely normal. I did the same thing when I lost someone as well. Maybe this person wasn't as close to me as Maddie was to you....but I still experienced the same sort of thing. You may be in a bit of denial....like you realize that she passed away but yet you don't really understand or want to accept that just yet.

I'm really sorry about your loss. I have a twin brother and as much as we don't get along sometimes I couldn't imagine life without him. Know that I'm praying for you and that God will be watching over Maddie, you and your family.

God bless

Answer 2

First, you should make a vow to live a good life, if only to share your memories of her with others. Second, losing someone that close is terribly painful for anyone, and the first stage is denial it's explains why you haven't cried. See the link for more info on that. Third, if the fact that she was your twin is affecting you deeply, you should see a psychologist to get counseling (not medicine, unless you absolutely need it). Fourth, remember that the worst pains of tragedy do pass and, while you will always miss her, your longing will be lessened by your memories of her.  

Answer 3

It's completely normal. You're in shock right now especially if you were close with your twin. It's not wrong to cry or not cry. It's your way of coping with your loss. Your sister will be in my prayers.

Answer 4

You are sad, terribly sad for your sister. And I understand you. I am close to you, your family and I will pray for Maddie.

Answer 5

Sweetie i really feel for u.

what u r feeling is completely natural.

i don't know what to say myself, except that i am really sorry for your loss.

i think the best help you will get is from ur family and friends.. not randoms on the internet.. although i may be wrong cause i don't know ur situation. I'm more than happy too and i will say a prayer for ur Maddie. much love and prayers from Me in Western Australia for your sister Maddie.

Answer 6

It will take time.

I've never lost anyone so close to me but I don't have any experience.

Just try to lean on your friends and family for support.

I'm really sorry for your loss.

I don't pray.. but if I did then I would be praying for you and your family.

Answer 7

It is a big surprise how grief can make us feel so bad in  our bodies and our minds and our feelings.  It is first of all a great shock, even when we know it is coming.   I am sorry for your loss and the pain your family has.  

Your reaction is completely normal.  Grief does hurt, and makes us feel disoriented in some strange new world.  These feelings will pass.

Maddie will live on in your memory and those of the people who love her best.  I will pray for maddie and also for you, that you will find some comfort and peace along the way as you pass through this time of sorrow.

Answer 8

I am very sorry for your loss.What you are feeling is  normal,You are still in shock.You will morn in your own time.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Answer 9

i will pray for both of you. you are in shock right now,grieving takes many different stages, you will feel sadness,anger,guilt, all sort of feelings. its very normal. you will always still be a twin and she will live in your heart<3

Answer 10

Oh Vivienne, I am so sorry.  You need to know that the shock of such a loss, especially of a twin, is something you will always carry with you, but in time you will deal with it.

After the first shock, please try to cry -- you need to do this.  Take all the time you need to mourn, and lean on your friends and family as much as you need.  Even get some short-term counseling to see you through.  Do NOT try to just tough it out, because it does not work!  Be kind to yourself!  Even though she was very ill, it is so sad.

Everybody who reads this will pray for both you and Maddie, of course.  Where are you?  If I am nearby, I will come to her services also, if you would like.  xx, me

PS  <3  God bless you and Maddie both.