Whenever I have s*x with a guy, I feel naked?

Question

right now I'm just casual dating....."looking for love"....having s*x when necessary, nothing unusual....it just seems that the guy always get the pleasure, don't get me wrong, I "love" s*x and all, but something is missing.....how to stop this feeling, or what is it? don't wanna (or trying) to be a w***e, but don't want to be a saint either

Answer 1

I think waiting for the right feeling with the right guy is the answer otherwise you have the feeling you are only and instrument in their pleasure

Answer 2

you just said that it seems like the guy gets all the pleasure. and you also said something is missing. you solved your problem. just communicate what you like so you can feel the pleasure too. the only thing missing is your o****m!

Answer 3

having s*x when necessary? there is your problem! don't have s*x because you think it's what you're supposed to do when you date! are you kidding me? I was NO SAINT in my younger 20's but I didn't sleep with guys until I was in a committed relationship.once or twice I had a one night stand..but I was too drunk to notice if anything was missing. I used to love keeping the guys wanting more! if you're going to play around, then PLAY AROUND! make out, flirt, get free drinks, then go home and laugh with your girls! Something will always seem missing from s*x if it's not someone you have a mental connection with.

Answer 4

That's understandable.. nobody says you got to be a saint.. or a nun.. but I guess you get this feeling... ''emotionaly being naked.. not the physical nudity.. which is normal during s*x.. Lol.. but if you only have casual s*x then the heart and the soul of the intimacy is not present.. you just have s*x for the sake of satisfying lust.. If you had physical intimacy and you also had it with someone whom you respected as a person, whom you could trust and who was  a great friend and real genuine feelings of caring on both sides were involved.. then you would not feel ''emotionally naked''' when having s*x because you would then do this not just for the sake of fulfilling a sexual need but also because there is more to a real relationship than just s*x.. s*x makes about 50 % of a relationship but if you only got that then 50 % are lacking .. the understanding the being able to open up to this person you are intimate with and talk about things that are important to you.. you are missing out on that with casual s*x..  that's why I guess you feel that way.. you miss the other 50 % that make a relationship ''complete'' and where you feel safe in a relationship.. and know you can trust each other and there is the respect on both sides and you are both equals and not just bedmates... xx