Whenever my husband and I argue I always talk to my girlfriends about it...?

Question

and they hate him... they just keep telling me to get divorced... but i only tell them the worst c**p because I am mad... and after I am calmed down I feel so stupid for saying that stuff about my husband.

Should I even worry about what they think about my husband or should i really just start keeping my big mouth shut? I need friends to talk to, but it seems like i just cant control what comes out of my mouth when i am angry... why do i do this???

Answer 1

I have learned that a husbands and wife's business is their own. You should not tell your friends what goes on in your marriage for better or worse. You are making him seem like a bad person and he may not be that really hurts his character and he can't even defend himself. If you are mad at him then go to him and tell him he is your husband and you sound as if you love him. Just talk to him about it and stop making him look bad in front of your friends.  

Answer 2

As a man, I would not like it if my wife talked to her friends about our arguments.  I do not tell my friends about any arguments we have.  Also, this brings up the questions of what other things are you telling your friends about your husband?  I recommend you try to stop this habit.

Answer 3

are you the chick that every time you're around your friends you are complaining about your husband, no wonder they want you to leave him, they're tired of hearing you constantly b***h about him.

Answer 4

Honey, we all do at some point. You are doing yourself a disservice by telling them your biz. Write it down & then shred it if you have to get it out. Or take a walk...Talking to your friends about what happens in your marriage is borrowing trouble.

Answer 5

You do this because you are still immature. The same women you complain to about your husband...one of them would not hesitate to sleep with him, if you two don't break up. Believe this! Yes, you need to keep your mouth shut and always speak well of your hubby to others or not at all. Yes, you need to vent about him; but, you must find one or two trustworthy females to talk to...not your general friends. As for now, you need to mend his reputation by praising him to them...let them think the immaculate conception came down upon him and he has made a 360 degree turn-around. Good luck with common sense.  

Answer 6

It is normal. We all do it. You just need to vent.

Answer 7

Your girlfriends should not be in your business. For that matter, neither should family, co-workers, the girl at that checkout or anyone else! Rather than venting about your husband, learn how to talk to him about your feelings and the two of you work it out!  

Answer 8

Why are you telling them in the first place; are you not getting your point across to your husband? The way to keep problems out of your marriage is to resolve the problems within it.

Answer 9

i always say " if you can talk about all his negative behavior then it's only fair to talk about his positive behavior" this way you don't look like a fool for staying with him, and no one will think that all he does is treat you badly.  G/L

Answer 10

yeah if you going to stay with the man,you shouldn't be telling your friends about what going on in your house,and not expect them to react,Now they think your man is a jerk,And you put that picture in their head.So if you love the man,what go on in your house is your business.I know you need someone to talk to.But they think you is crazy for staying with him,because you tell them things.So you should keep your business to yourself,

Answer 11

hun, YOU NEVER LET PPL IN YOUR MARRIAGE BUSINESS (unless he abuses you in some way). Firstly. dont mean to be harsh, but he should take prioriy over ur gf's in every way. HE should always be the first option. if you r having a problem tell HIM!! and remember that he is the head of the household so you need to treat him with respect and stop yelling b/c being submissive and humble are some of the characteristics of a good wife. i understand that he may mess up at times but by your good conduct, if he really loves you, he wld be encouraged to be an even better husband. but you are supposed to be his backbone not someone who bad mouths him when he messes up. he doesnt need that. you guys are a team, be his co-pilot. another good tip that works for me is that we make it a rule to never hold bk what bothers us, also, to get it out of our system before we go to sleep.

Answer 12

Because it's in our nature to talk to our girlfriends and seek advise. If you're telling your friends too much though then you keep some details out of your questions. Also, you can let them know that you want to vent but you don't want them to judge your hubby.

Answer 13

Never bring a third party into your marriage that's not qualified to give you advice on it. Your girlfriends don't belong in your marriage.