Where are all the decent women?

Question

Been in a couple relationships, the last one crushed me for a while.

I was wondering if anyone knows where the good women are. And please don't tell me to look in churches that's a huge laugh.

It's seems that the women in their 20s are only looking for casual s*x and that disgusts me to no end.

And it's not like I'm looking for the perfect woman, I just have standards. She has to be intelligent, Conservative in political views, and fun loving oh and some one that's good with kids, because I really want to have kids someday, See not much.

As far as physical looks, that's hard for me to say because how I view some one is strongly influenced by what I know about them. Everyone in the world could think someones beautiful but, if that person enjoyed casual s*x, I'd see an ugly cow.

I guess the question is, are there any women left that actually want commitment. Cause I've looked but, found none.

I should note I'm asking ahead of time. Since my last breakup I've been through a lot, and just in the past year finally got back on track. So I'm in college now and working part time. I expect to graduate in a couple years and then I'll look into dating again. Till then it's nice to have a few good ideas ahead of time.

Guess I'm asking because I'd expect to find mature women in college and all I'm seeing is spring break bimbos that'll likley drop out. Plus I really don't want to wait till I'm middle aged to find some one mature.

Not to say all women are like that, I"ve found a few really good women like that. Heck 2 of them are close friends but, both are married.

Answer 1

excuse me mister, but i am catholic and by saying don't look in a church, do you think that we're all very religious and we're all about God all the time? because I don't really like church you stereotypical fool.

Answer 2

Why is it wrong for a woman to want casual s*x, but it's ok if a man does?

Answer 3

Ok, sometimes you need to look for girls in places you overlook, consciously or sub-consciously.

I would like to believe that i am one of those women who you are trying so desperately to find, (that is not a suggestion or an invite of any sort lol) and i am surrounded by friends who have very similar interests. Perhaps you are just looking in the wrong places?

I hope your quest to find a credible women is successful. =)

Answer 4

Right here in Australia ;)

Answer 5

Good women are lesbians and avoid men.

Answer 6

trust me on this one: Silicon Valley

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Wow! I don't understand why some women think that being trash is a previlege, and insist on loosing what little value that they have left.  No wander they are being followed around by gender discrimination that I have never witnessed in a developed country. They generate it.

Answer 7

I am nineteen in college and I have to say it is refreshing that a man in his mid twenties feels this way. s*x without love or affection is essentially violence, I am sorry but this is true...s*x is not designed for a bit of fun, it is about cementing a bond, releasing pleasurable hormones..Infants who are not held and petted enough when little, manifest a failure to thrive...Physical contact with others is so important for us as human beings, it really does lift our moods, we feel loved, warm, appreciated and plays a huge role in our happiness with the right individual...I myself wish people were a little more conservative but people are mindless and do what everyone else does...You sound like you are from America? I am an Irish girl, so we do not see the spring breaker girls as such but there are an awful lot of slags about...

EDIT: Ireland is alright, I mean I feel a little displaced in culture really. I am quite a romantic person and Irish people are thoroughly pragmatic...The ideal of Ireland is beautiful but the reality of anything is far different to what one would expect

Answer 8

There are definitely good women out there, my friend. It all just depends on where you are looking.

Usually places like bars or clubs are a bad choice, because anyone there is most often looking for a hook up. I'm sure you've already realized that, but I'm just adding that as a reminder.

It sounds odd, but I've met most of the decent people I know at a coffee shop. Usually I find them sitting at a table, reading a paper or writing. Sometimes just drifting off into their thoughts. Some of those cute and cozy sit down places are fun to scope out.

Or look into the females that are in your college classes, if there are any. Whatever you are trying to get a degree in, if it's something that interests you and they are in the same program as well, that's already something you have in common.

Just don't stress about not finding the right person instantly. It will honestly take time, and most often people don't find their soul mates in the same town they're residing in. Try taking a trip to another place and see what happens.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Why don't you try a dating website? I've heard they can be very helpful.

Answer 10

I know exactly how you feel. I have been feeling like that for a while since I started college; I'm 21 and I consider myself decent and mature. Everyone of the guys that I'm looking for disgust me because all they want is s*x. I think it has more to do with maturity on the person's part. There was one guy that I liked, 26 years old to be exact, but he was in a relationship so I decided to keep those feelings to myself. I really don't know where to tell you to look; One day you will meet that special person and it may be anytime in your life. I would consider church, but they are just as much hypocritcal girls as they are decent girls. I hope everything works out for you, but you will meet someone one day just be receptive to it. Good Luck with it!!

Answer 11

Your description sounds similar to me :), I'd tell you where I was but it's kind of dangerous being as is on a public forum.

Anyway, we are out there, just keep your eyes & ears open!

Answer 12

I think there must be young women around who want committment, because there are plenty of books advising women on how to get a man, how to keep him once she's got him etc, and someone must be buying them.  And people are still getting married, driving home from our holidays yesterday we passed at least three weddings.

If you don't like the idea of looking for a woman in a church, then how about a conservative political organisation?  There must be women who work for those as volunteers etc?

Another possibility is to go on the Singles and Dating section on here and see if you can find someone who suits you?  There are plenty of young women around complaining that they can't find men who want to committ, so evidently women have the same problem.

Answer 13

There are plenty of women like what you described.  Maybe you're doing something wrong.  Try joining a club in school that reflects on your values.  Or, try tweaking the whole "conservative in views" thing, because honestly, depending on where you live and what college you go to, most young people in their 20s are going to be liberals anyway.  Also, there's nothing wrong with dating someone who isn't exactly like you.  You all might disagree on some things, but it makes the relationship interesting if you all can talk about different things and have (friendly) debates.  Good luck.

EDIT: What do you mean "liberal views don't work when a man wants kids"?  I don't get that.

Answer 14

Why not ask your married close friends to introduce you to some nice young women?  It might not work out, but then again it might.  

Just keep your options open and focus on being a decent young man.  You ARE very young to be thinking of settling down.  This is not something you can force.

Answer 15

just be nice,miracle always happan...