Where can I find a real man who loves a women's body?

Question

I am 5'7 in height and weigh 366 pounds (of today) and people would really consider me either curvy or womanly. women like me today get no love because men like sticks or bony women for example sizes between 00 and 5 any thing above is out only unhealthy sizes win.

I am very smart, sweet, and active. I wear a size 30 in clothes and I dress girly always in dresses and my make up ideas are always from Allure.

I walk for 20 min each morning, and go swimming at night for 30 min and I work part time at mc Donald's ( I am a student also part time and 23 years old)

I am educated, active , and s**y and its hard for me to get a date.

What can a women like me with a real body find a man?

Answer 1

A real body? You could take two voluptuous women your height with meat on their bodies and plenty of curves and stick them together, and they still wouldn't weigh as much as you do. Quit trying to make it sound like you are being overlooked because you have a little more weight on you than what is considered normal.

My mother was 5' 5" and weighed 300 pounds and looked like that girl on Willy Wonka who ballooned up from eating that one candy, so I can't imagine you have "curves" beyond that of a sphere.

Answer 2

Well, to be perfectly honest, you have your work cut out for you.

While many men do appreciate a woman who is curvy or even "thick", there are very few men (at least in the US and Canada) who will openly go for someone who is considered "supersized" ... and "supersized" is defined as someone who is more than 300 lbs or having a 40 BMI! Based on the height/weight you gave us, you at 366 lbs have a BMI of 57.3 which is definitely in the mobidly obese category.

That's not to say you're doomed to a life of loneliness, because I know personally of women even larger than you are who are married or in romantic relationships. The late Mama Cass, Carnie Wilson, Kirstie Alley and Mo'Nique had/have no problem getting or keeping men despite being very overweight/obese...but they were/are celebrities...so that puts them into a different league from most people.  

As an everyday person, you'll just have to take a different tack when it comes to dating.

If you don't want to move to a country where very large women are desired as wives (such as some places in the Middle East or Africa), and you for whatever reason don't want to lose the weight, then you're going to have to go to dating sites that are specifically set up for larger sized people.  Just go to any search engine and punch in "plus size" or "BBW" or "SBBW" dating or fat admirers and a plethora of such sites will come up. Be aware that some of those sites will look like they run on the x rated side...but despite that, quite a few of are legit. Some of those groups online actually plan real time social events where larger sized women can meet up with men who are considered Fat Admirers or FA.

You might also try getting involved with groups like National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance and find like minded people.

There is a whole subculture out there for very large sized people if you're interested in it.  If you go that route, I would just caution you to beware of those FAs who are into the paraphilia called feederism. These are the ones who get a sexual thrill out of fattening people up to the point where they are unhealthy and immobile. It's a form of emotional abuse, and people have actually died from this fetish.

On the last bit re: execise.  Not all exercise is boring. You just should find the right one for you and stick with it.  Exercise is good and important for our well being regardless of our size. Don't exercise and diet to be thin...or to get a man...do it to be HEALTHY!

Answer 3

im sorry honey i am truly not trying to be offensive or anything like that but how can u be active and be 366 pounds? how can u say u swin, are active and walk if u weigh that amount. look the truth is that being that heavy is not healthy for u and im not basing it on those super duper skinny models or actresses or society's concept of beauty but being that large is unhealthy. u might have a hormonol inbalance. thats not healthy. and let me ask u lets say u were a size 8 okay would u like a guy that weight 350- 400 pounds? what do u consider attractive? that might answer ur question as why u can't get a date..

Answer 4

Men have different tastes, just as women do. I'm close to your age so I know what you are going through. But not all men love sticks.

Not everyone is going to find everyone of the opposite s*x attractive. Sometimes, it's all a matter of hormones. Some men, love full figured gals. Just like some women like bigger men. (I know I'm one of them). It might not be everyone. But I have to factor both physical and mental attraction.

It's not going to be one or the other.

We are all unique, with our own biological pheromones. Sometimes, it's not a question of shallowness. Sometimes, it's just evolution, survival of the species. Producing healthy babies. Basically the science of life.

You just keep being who you are. If you're truly happy looking the way you do, then more power to you. But, I can't really think of many men or women that would want their significant other to be unhealthy. I would worry if my boyfriend was over 300, because he's at risk for so much more diseases. That would really scare me.

I'm sure you could still be curvy, but also be healthy at the same time. Be confident, and the guys will be all over you. or hopefully just one. <3

Answer 5

I'm a big woman too. (size 20)

I had trouble, but I stopped worrying about what people think about it, and my inner confidence started to shine through.....and my very handsome hubby came along and he liked that inner confidence.

If you are comfortable with yourself, and truly love yourself, it will show. And then a man will see that beauty..

Good luck. You are beautiful no matter what others say!

Answer 6

I'm sorry but @ 366 pounds (160kg)   you're not a "real body" you are morbidly obese. The average women wears a 14/16.

But anyway....

There are plenty of guys who have a fascination for obese women, especially in African countries. Try googling something like "men who love fat women' to give you some ideas

Answer 7

I weigh 200, and am currently dieting healthy way, and exercise. I am married. My husband loves me the way I am and supports me. IF you are not losing weight you should increase your exercise time.  

Answer 8

Sweetie, you're too big for most guys but you know what? There are plenty of men that like big women. I have a thin friend who would love to meet you....he doesn't date anyone weighing less than 250 pounds.

Answer 9

Youre 5 foot 7 366 pounds? People would not consider you curvy or womanly. they would consider you obese, hun. sorry to break it to you. men like curves not obese. theres a difference.