Where can I give my 13yr old up for adoption?

Question

His is giving me a lot of trouble. Gets worse day by. He is in drugs, gangs. I don't know why his is becoming like that. Can't deal with him no more.

Answer 1

I had problems when I was young drugs, anger etc.. I sure am glad my parents did not give up on me.  What they did do is remove me from the situation, get the counseling I needed put in in the foster care system where I could get the help I needed.  What they did not do is quit loving me or throw me away.  If he is to much for you to handle or you don't know how get help!  Parents Anonymous, counseling, foster care.  but if he thinks you want to just get rid of him (throw him away) he will never change.

Answer 2

Your son needs some serious help, you're right. Probably rehab for the drugs, residential if possible to get him away from the gang situation. It might not be a bad idea to move and help him get a fresh start somewhere else.

But you giving up on him and kicking him out of the family, making him go away when he has nowhere else to turn but gangs and drugs, will NOT help. It might send him into the spiral that destroys him. He needs your love-- love that means setting limits, but love-- and support if he's going to make it.

Please don't abandon him now. He needs your help.

Answer 3

You know something.  God never promised that raising our children would be easy.  I am very sorry about your son.  What you need to do is find help for him, you cannot just give up on him,because he is causing you grief.   He may be giving you trouble, I believe that he is, but can you imagine what he is doing to himself right now, with drugs and gangs.   Try to get him help.  If you want to not be his parent anymore, do you think that will cause him to stop doing drugs?  of course not

Answer 4

It sounds like he would be a great candidate for a boys group home. These homes have constant supervision and counciling. They have year long programs that show children how to live right and love themselves. They help with respecting others boundries and problems with authority. They offer family counciling and have reunification as a goal. Some kids just get on a difficult path and need special help that an hour a week at a counciling appointment can't help. At least this way you won't loose contact with your son. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

i hope u know that if ur giving up ur child because "u cant deal with him no more" ur kinda a failure. maybe u should help him instead of giving him away.

maybe ur just venting ur anger with this question...but be an adult and be a smart one.

Answer 6

Should of thought about that before you spread your legs and spewed out another person in a world where there are already far to many people.

Oh and you raised him so congrats on a job well done.

Answer 7

don't do it, what i would do is get him a therapist, and if possible send him to rehabe, they have things like that for kids don't worry he isn't the only one! But please don't put him up for adoption! Just love him as much as possible, he's your son! Do whats best forhim, not you!

Answer 8

Contact Parents Anonymous  

Answer 9

OMG! Get the kid help your just another one of those parents that should of never had kids. Have you even tried helping him? Where is his father? If you have tried helping him and it didn't work maybe send him to his dads or grandparents house or move and get him out of the environment he lives in. Away from the friend and bad influences he has.

Answer 10

You need to take control over your son.  I have a two year old daughter and i already set her stright when she does wrong.  You need to set him down and have a real heart to heart eye to eye long conversation with him.  You need to talk to him about his future, and what he wants to become.  This world is getting harder and harder to make it.  I make good money at my job, and still live paycheck to paycheck.  I don't know some people are making it these days....living on credit cards i guess.  Anyhow, if you don't take the time to talk to your son, i mean really sit down and have a focused talk....it will get worse.  Good luck.  

Answer 11

Your kidding? After 13 years you are giving up?  He's your son, deal with him. Don't lose your baby.

Answer 12

Don't give up honey! But if you can't anymore call your local CPS (child protective services) office! But be ready to have bounced around in the foster system! Nobody wants a teenager for adoption! Is that really the solution? Take charge!

Answer 13

Are you serious?  Will giving him up for adoption help him?  

Teens certainly can give their parents a lot of trouble, and you're not the only parent who sometimes feels like they are at the end of their rope.  But your son still needs a parent - maybe more now than ever.

Drugs and gangs are a lot for a parent to deal with. You should try to get some help.  Talk to his school counselor or youth services agency.  They can help him get into the right kind of counseling or treatment.  Someday he will appreciate the fact that his parents didn't give up on him.  

Answer 14

OK, im pretty sure you aren't for real, but if you are, i think you are horrendous. You cant just dump a child because you cant deal with him. A child should be cherished and loved and if u are having trouble, get a spine and give him the help he needs. You cant just throw him out like garbage! You're terrible person. Grow a spine, you coward.

Answer 15

That's nice of you to pass on the problem you created, your child, on to someone else. No wonder he's all f ed up, apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Answer 16

send him to counseling or boot camp.  Boot camp would work more than counseling, I think

Good Luck

Answer 17

When toddlers are doing something wrong, we are encourage to remove them from what they are doing if it's a danger to them.

Maybe that would help your son and I don't mean adopting him out. Can you send him to relatives? Can you get him counseling? What can you do for him that will keep him away from danger?

Answer 18

I am guessing you want to make sure he has a good home where he will learn right from wrong? I hope I am guessing right, well the first step is to take him to councelling and try talking to him. Ask him if anything is bothering him, try finding out why he is into drugs and try to tell him the risks. Being a good parent, the one that raised him for 13 years you shouldnt give up that easily. He;s only 13, he can still change... you just have to see the light at the end of the tunnel and try helping through the darkness. I know, sounds corny but if you give him up for adoption do you really think someone else is going to put effort into raising him properly??? He is after all your child and maybe you can move to another environment (if possible) to get him away from this), I know you love your kid and thats why your worried about these problems, but there are other possibilities. Good luck!!!

Answer 19

Stop being silly your just having a bad day or week. You can't tell me that you don't love that child.

He will never get adopted, he will live out his days in foster care.

Take a deep breath and tell yourself that teenage years suck. If you taught him right from wrong it is his responsibility to chose. You can't make those choices for him.

I have 2 teenage boys and some days are the pits.

Good Luck

Answer 20

try contacting Shite Parents Anonymous

Answer 21

well if u been their for 13 years u might as well stay for the long run

Answer 22

dont give him up. you need to help him. take him to counseling or phyciatric help

Answer 23

Omg i am so angry right now! Are u serious a 13yr old for adoption? You are a pathetic excuse for a mother and woman. You are supposed to care for him , love him, give him undivided attention and get him the help he needs. No wonder wonder hes the way he is if i had a mother like you i would have just ran away...

Answer 24

WTF!!!

Help him giving him up for adoption isn't going to do anything good for his life. You should help him get better try to understand him mor if he gives you trouble then disipline him thats probably why hes like that not enough disipline you can't give give up hes your son (own flesh and blood) If you really love him and want whats best for him then you will not give up on him help him out get him help!!! I'm sure if you were in that situation you wouldn't want your parents to just go put you up for adoption!!!Thats F**KED UP!!

Answer 25

Send him off to boot camp. Have you seen the shows where they have the drill sargeants that scare the c**p out of the kids.

Your son will get better, you would regret getting rid of him unless you are a heartless person.  

Answer 26

too sad but he is your responsibility.  the best thing you can do for him is to call the police and have him put in juvie for not going to school, drugs, whatever.  this isn't about you anymore my dear but about straightening him out with tough measures.

as to why, where is his father and why isn't he involved with your son?

Answer 27

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Answer 28

Maybe you should try caring. Get him counceling. Try to figure out why he is being this way. You have raised him for 13 years.He would be lucky to leave since you don't seem to love him.

Answer 29

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