Where do I start to take the baby father rights away.

Question

I am currently 25 weeks pregnant. The father is totally being a jerk right now. He doesn't want to talk to me or anything because I dump him. He think I just used him to get pregnant and so on. He had used me for s*x and so on because he was getting any from his girlfriend that was pregnant with his child has well. There were living together but didn't know it. His girlfriend was also pregnant. The baby was taken away from them. He was using me when he was dating her and his girlfriend was fine with that. He thinks he can date two people at the same time. I told him that wrong. He doesn't think he going to pay child support. And he thinks that all I want. I think it better off for me to take his father rights away because of all this. Where should I start. Can I do during my pregnancy or wait till after the baby born. He won't talk to me never again. He saying he hates me. But I really hate him because of his jerk he acting.

Answer 1

Call your state child service division, tell them you are pregnant and the father lost custodial rights to his other child.  You want to protect your child from whatever reason the state had for finding him an unfit parent.

Depending on the state you live in, you can leave his name off the birth certificate, demand a paternity test and have state mandate child support.  In Oregon (where I live) the state takes away your license if you don't pay child support.  I Washington, the state pays your child support then goes after the parent.  When they don't pay, they owe the state the $$$, not you, and they get judgements, jail time, etc...

Answer 2

option 1: The father has to have no contact of any kind for 7 years and you must file for abandonment for the rights to just be taken away.

option 2: You and the father must go before a judge and the father must sign away his rights.

Just so you know even if he loses parental rights it is separate from child support he is still needs to pay that regardless. Child support can be taken out of his wages without his permission.  Remind him of that.  He won't want that because it hurts him in the event he ever wants to buy something or get credit for something for the next 25 years.

Answer 3

all i know is once a father has made no effort for a year to see or contact his child his rights can easily be terminated...

Answer 4

It really depends on the laws in your state.

When my brothers then-girlfriend was pregnant, he found out that (in our state) she could not legally put his name on the birth certificate and list him as the father of the child unless there was a paternity test PROVING that he was the father.   (In the end, it turned out that my brother was not the baby's father anyway)

So it might not be any issue at all....maybe your state woudn't even allow him on the birth certificate unless he proves paternity...and from what you say, it sounds like he might not even WANT to be named as the father.  

Now if you want him on the birth certificate so that you can sue for child support, then he could probably couner sue for joint custody...so it might be better not to go down that path.

Either way, you should probably contact a family law attorney for clarification on the specific laws of your state that pertain to your situation.  You might want to do an online search (or let your fingers do the walking in the yellow pages) for some sort of community legal-aid clinic where you can get some inexpensive advice before you start paying $$$$ lawyer fees.  

In the meantime, I would probably also be inclined to start a notebook where I kept track of what he says to me, when, who else heard him say it, etc.  Keep all the reciepts of everything baby-related that you need to pay for, etc.  JUST IN CASE for later.  If you end up in court at some point in the future, any documentation you can use to back up yourself can only help you.

Answer 5

OK well first of all why would you have a child with a man who is living with someone else who he got pregnant?  I am shaking my head at this one and am unsure what you are really asking here.  Take away his rights??, he is the father isn't he?  He has rights and you just can't take them away because of this battle between all of you.  

Sounds like you will have some court battles when the baby is born, he will have to pay child support regardless of whether you talk to him or not.

Answer 6

It sounds like you want to take his rights away because you and him are not getting along. This is a selfish reason. You need to think of your child. You may not want him in your life but your child may want to know him. He may be a looser to you but to your child he is his daddy and always will be. You need to be the bigger person.

Answer 7

well your going to have to wait til after you have the baby then when you get your lawyer and go to court mention the fact that he already had a child taken away so therefore he was doing something wrong and should not get any custody and you want him to sign his rights over good luck

Answer 8

It takes awhile to take a parents rights from them. The best thing I can tell you if he does not want to pay child support tell him if he signs over all rights you will not take him to court. And do not put his name on the birth certificate. You do relize if he signs over his rights you can not get support from him. anyway I hope I helped have a good night. And so you now if you take him to court for child support and he does not have a job a judge will still order him to pay support and the way they figure it out is he will say well you could make at least this much an hour and then he will figure it out from there

Answer 9

I didn't realize that a baby could be used as a weapon.  That's so sad.

Answer 10

Talk to a lawyer, and see what you have to do.  Don't let him get to you.